Hey, glad you clicked into this post! Let's get into it:

I have pretty solid prior experience with bdsm and with being a dom, but I've only recently discovered online communities for it. I've been dating on and off in the city, and basically decided that I'd rather pursue a relationship or a fyb/fling with someone who's into the same kinks that I am into. I know what I like, and I've been without it for long enough to know that I really want it back in my life.

Before I get into kinks though, I wanna describe the kind of dynamic that is most appealing to me.

I lean much more into pleasure/daddy dom styles than I do slave/master dynamics. I am a fan of giving praise and coaxing pleasure out of my sub, and I love to teach and share what I know. And ngl, I don't necessarily have an enormous thing for like. Being called "daddy" or anything-- I do think it's fun-- but the point I'm trying to get across is that I like encouraging my sub and knowing them more than just sexually, and that happens to fall into the "daddy dom" classification. I just prefer when my sub has more personal freedom and is their own person. For me, control is an element of bdsm, but definitely not everything, and for me, not all the time. So TPE and a 24/7 thing probably isn't something I'd be interested in.

Anyway, one of the biggest draws of this community, for me, is that it's a space for learning and discovery. I pride myself on just being a decent human being, and a part of that means that I put a lot of effort and emphasis on creating a secure environment to engage in. I won't do anything with anyone who I don't trust, or who doesn't trust me, and I completely understand that uhhhh...this is reddit. Internet stranger-danger is completely understandable. I'm more than happy to take my time getting to know you, and I won't demand pictures or video or anything that'd make you uncomfortable. In my opinion, bdsm just flat-out doesn't work without trust, security, and consent.

So what are my kinks, is probably the next question. I'm into lots. Top of the list is teaching/learning, bondage, orgasm control, overstimulating, sexual frustration, teasing, and foreplay games. I do love coming up with creative activities and rulesets/scenarios, and I'm a huge fan of designing/modifying games to be kinky. Beyond those, I'm also into choking, spanking, free use, breathplay, light sadism, CnC, somno, task assignments, praising, training, roleplay, safe public play, having sex in different places, etc etc etc. I very much enjoy figuring things out, and I'm of the mentality that I'd be interested in trying out everything, even if I don't have experience in it. And if youre not into each and every kinks that im into, that's totally fair. I dont need them all lmao.

The only things I don't think I'm into are bodily-waste play, blood play, age regression/age play, and heavy impact play. Degradation is also probably not my go-to preference, but if the mood hits, I think I'd be into experimenting there. I just don't think I could be devastatingly mean-- if I'm with you, I probably like you too much to get much pleasure out of that.

Alright, if you're still here I'm super pleased. Hopefully you're interested in the kind of thing I'm imagining, so I'm gonna get into the physical/personality attraction piece next.

My preference is that you are not a stagnant person, and you have passions or goals that you're working towards, or thinking about. They don't have to be enormous, but I don't love people who are content with dissatisfaction. You'd have to be a solid communicator, a decent person, and as shallow as it might sound, I'd have to be attracted to you, cause physical attraction does mean a solid bit to me. I don't necessarily have a type, BUT, smaller gals tend to be the kinds of people I find myself consistently finding lust in. For whatever reason, I also tend to gravitate towards small/fit pale brunettes. I don't mean to discourage anyone else-- I'm attracted to well more than just that kind of gal, but I figured I'd just say what's most helpful.

Now onto me! I'm 5' 9" and this ain't tinder so you don't have to so any math to figure out my actual height-- I'm not gonna lie here. I'm also ~140lbs, I work on my body and have a lean/fit physique, but I'm not jacked or anything, even though I consistently go to the gym and work on my musculature. I have brown hair, brown eyes, and a face that gets compared most to Liam Payne or Steve from Stranger Things.

In terms of personality, I'm a nerd, but also decently athletic and enjoy sports/physical activity. I have like 5k hours in my favorite video game, and I run 5ks irl. I'm an ex-tech-guy who is now an aspiring actor, with no dillusions about how difficult and uncertain that pivot is. I play music, cook good food, write all kinds of things, do standup, dance, run, walk aimlessly, read, enjoy math, play videogames, watch movies, and keep up with the NFL. I like being friendly and really care about being a good person, and people have said that I give golden retriever energy. I don't make much sense, nor do I particularly want to. Oh, also I have ADHD out the ass. So maybe I do make sense, considering that. Love me some dopamine.

That's all I can think of writing out atm. So yeah. If you have any questions for me, or if you want to get to chatting, feel free to reach out. I encourage any and all questions you might have for me, so please, as cute as I might find it, don't be shy! Or do be shy if that's who you are, but at the very least, consider reaching out anyway.

Cheers, and have a great life.