I'm maybe a little different than typical Doms you see here, so I'll write a bit about myself, then I'll move to what I'm looking for.

My gender's nonbinary/genderfluid. I'm AMAB and sex is pretty much the standard male experience, so I'm using the Male tag here. That and the NB tag seems to mostly get ignored. My energy is more soft masc lesbian if that helps you conceptualize it.

I'm 6'2"(barefoot no cheating), good build, blue eyes, reasonably handsome, full head of hair, bwc.

I'll get to Dom stuff in a moment, but outside of kink I'm very soft and sensitive and empathetic, though I can stand up for myself and take charge of situations. I'm artistic, intellectually curious, and deeply spiritual. I'm actually planning on moving into professional spiritual work in the coming year. I like games, including TTRPGs and horror. Big basketball fan, casual football fan. Disney passholder. I listen to a lot of girly pop music lately, but I'm also a big fan of alternative and rap, plus a wide range of other stuff. Also very liberal.

Kink: I'm a lot harder than my normal personality. Bondage, pain, humiliation, degredation objectification, and CNC. Also into anal, throat fucking, feet, piss, and orgasm control. Open to various dynamics with my sub, so if you're newer I'm okay going light, or if you want me to go very hard I like that too.

Not a lot of limits, but no needles or cutting. Also no scat or big age regression. And I don't switch.

I ask that you are... Obviously cool with who I am and largely okay with my kinks, though there's certainly wiggle room. Any height, any ethnicity. Pretty strong preference for thin or muscular builds.

Age: This one's complicated. I tend to get along better with Gen Z women/enbies. Not because I think women my age are gross or anything, I just find women 30 tend to have weird hangups on gender expression/dynamics or hold uncomfortable politics. If you're 30 and are genuinely cool about those things and are not going to make it a huge deal about how you're sooooo cool with those things, then absolutely feel free to message.

Other stuff: I tend to like women who are intelligent and capable. If you have an successful career or you're a high-achieving student, then I'm not going to be uncomfortable with that at all. And please be your own person with your own interests. Having a capable person who's fully themself choose to submit to me is just chef's kiss.

One last thing: One thing I genuinely hate about dating in California is how flakey people tend to be, who treat others like they're disposable. If you're going to message me, please do so with intention and respect, and I will treat you the same way.

If you've made it this far, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. If you think we'd get along please send me a message with one of your favorite foods and whether you're more comfortable talking kink or other stuff at first, so I know you read. "Hey" or something similar will not get a response.