Hi there, and thanks for taking the time to check out my post!

After a brief hiatus due to some work issues (namely too much of it), I've decided once again to seek a dynamic.

I have over 25 years of experience in kink... but don't let that intimidate or scare you (unless that's your kink lol). Over half of that experience has been spent introducing new people to kink, so I'm perfectly capable of scaling our play to your experience level, and I'm happy to do so. At the other end of the spectrum, I'm also comfortable with submissives who are experienced.

At this point in my kink journey, my tastes are somewhat more refined than when I was younger; I know what I like, how I like it, and how I want it presented. This is ***not*** to say that I'm not open to incorporating your kinks into our dynamic... I'm always interested in learning about what makes you tick, what turns you on, and what experiences you'd like to explore. I point this out simply because I've recently had people ask me what my kinks are, and when I describe them, they keep expecting... more? Don't get me wrong, I enjoy an *extensive* list of kinks, but my tastes have clarified and solidified over time, in terms of my core kinks and what I enjoy *most*.

Ah, yes, the "what I'm looking for" stage of the post. It's fairly broad for the most part, I'm afraid, so if you're looking for a list of tiny niche kinks, you're gonna have a bad time. Which, it bears repeating, does not mean that I'm not into some tiny niche kinks, or that I'm not open to entertaining any that you may have. But I digress...

In broad strokes, I'm looking for:

• Between 19 and 55 years old
• Female identifying and AFAB (I prefer "girly girls"; the more femme, the better)
• Experience level is more or less irrelevant; I'm fine with scaling our dynamic/play to your comfort/experience level
• Body type, race, etc are irrelevant to me; hygiene is *not*
• Looking for long or longer-term connection; I'd like to build something that requires more time than a one-off or short term connection allows
• Understands that the "outside world" takes priority, and that means that sometimes kink needs to get set aside for moment or two while we deal with "real life"
• Is a solid communicator, or strives to be as much as possible
• Is interested in voice calls/audio messages later on, to some degree
• Doesn't take themselves, or this, extremely seriously (if you can't laugh at yourself, or at me, we're probably not a good fit)

In terms of kinks, my primary areas of interest are:

• D/s dynamics, M/s dynamics, or DD/lg dynamics
• Orgasm control, including but not limited to edging, denial, and forced
• Wardrobe control, specifically your lingerie (my username is related to this lol), but also other items occasionally, when convenient
• Exhibitionism/voyeurism; if it turns you on to send me pictures or videos that you know will drive me insane with lust, and you enjoy receiving extensive, glowing praise for same, we're probably a good fit (and no, I absolutely do not expect this right out of the gate... I expect to get to know each other first to some degree... we're people before all else... in other words, it's not hot for me if you're not enjoying it)
• Sensation play
• Mild impact play (although I'm happy to ramp this up if you're into it)
• Others that I'm sure will come up with conversation

Outside of kink, the me that the outside world sees is fairly straight-forward, and is very much "what you see is what you get". I don't hide who I am, even if I'm not wearing my kink on my sleeve. I'm not outspoken by any means, but I have zero problem speaking up when it's required. Include the colour of your panties in your reply so I know that you read everything and you pay attention to details. I'm very easy going and laid back as much as possible, but I can be very much the opposite of those things if need be; "Do not mistake kindness for weakness" is a saying that's always resonated with me. I very much enjoy the outdoors whenever possible, and when it's not possible, I enjoy reading, learning to cook new dishes (recipe swaps as a part of our dynamic? lol), and a good cup of coffee... preferably handed to me. If looks are a factor for you, think beard, silver hair, dad bod, and a couple of tattoos... like a nerd/lumberjack/pirate mix.

If you're still awake, congratulations, you made it to the end! Drop me a message if you're interested (message or chat is fine, if we're a good fit, I'd like to move to another chat platform fairly quickly, as I find reddit chat and messages unreliable at times). And if not, I hope you find what your looking for!