Hello,

I thought I'd try something a little different, I've been searching for a Domme, or a lady who'd enjoy exploring taking the lead, for a good while now. I've spoken with msny wonderful women, but haven't yet found the connection I seek.

This time I thought for a change I'd post an anonymized version of a DM I sent in response to an advert, it might read a little oddly but I think it conveys something of what I yearn for and what drives me. I hope you enjoy reading and would love to chat if it resonates with you.

Thank you for your time.

So, I noticed you’re ad a while ago, but I wanted to hold off messaging you so I could take the time to write a (hopefully) decent message, and put in a little effort for you.

I suspect this may be a little long, if I were with you in person I would make you a nice cup of <insert preferred hot beverage>. So, I’m a switch, I do find that sadly this term is met with some scepticism within the BDSM community, to the point where I’ve even gone as far as to repress it somewhat, I think I’m at a point in my life where I need to explore my submissive side. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy being in charge and I’ve had some wonderful experiences, but I’ve never found a partner in the past who was comfortable topping – this just leads to awkwardness and eventually bitterness, it’s not good. Above all I crave the uncertainty and the vulnerability of the situation, it’s tiresome making all the decisions all the time.

Ultimately this means that while I know a good deal about BDSM, I’m extremely inexperienced when it comes to allowing a lady to take the lead, but while scary and nerve-racking the uncertainty and the vulnerability excites me greatly. Furthermore, I don’t know what kind of a sub I would make, so let me tell you what I do know and you can decide if you’d like to get to know me better. I do know that a Gentle Domme Is much more appealing than someone who wants to laugh in my face and call me a ‘little bitch’, politeness iand seductive words are sexy.

What appealed to me from you ad. You appear to be someone who can be discrete, while happy an eager to explore wonderful kinky behaviour behind closed doors, as a senior professional with a career that is important to me this would be of the upmost importance. I’m also a bit of a sapiosexual, the fact you are studying at postgrad level is appealing, what are you studying if you don’t mind me asking? I love classical music but would say I’m something of a casual listener, definitely something I would like to learn more about, I’m also into literature, my favourite author being Terry Pratchett (gnu pterry), but I love a wide array of genres, I’m a huge cinephile and this is probably my biggest passion/hobby, film is very much my favourite art form and love nothing more than watching one of my favourite films and seeing at some point that the person I’m watching it with ‘gets it’, gets the wonder and the emotional connection that the film evokes. While I’m no polyglot I do find them oddly sexy.

I’d rather not be too explicit about my kinks at present, simply as I’m not quite sure when it comes to subbing what my preferences are, however I will say that our limits align and there was nothing on your kink list that I would say no to trying; I agree that Mistress is not a pleasant term – it just sounds harsh on the tongue to me, for the right women I could see myself addressing them as Goddess, Princess or my Queen, all of which sound very alluring, do you have a preferred way you like to address a sub? Something else I’d like to mention, I’m very much into auralism, I mention this as you stated that you enjoy erotic hypnosis, I’d be very keen to explore this deeper. Moreover, I think a Domme’s femininity and her voice can be just as sexually appealing as any visual atheistic. May I ask how you got into this?

Something that I do like, which may appeal to you (or you might not give a damn), is sensations and scene setting, I guess I’m a bit of a romantic at heart, I like to get the lighting right, also the smells and the sounds, even the textures ready for a scene or play time – the thought of providing body worship for you, or being gently pegged (not that I’ve tried it) while listening to classical music by candle/fire light sounds amazing.

Physically I’m not overweight, but I do admit to having what you might refer to as a ‘dad bod’ something I’m in the process of rectifying for my own self. I’m 5’11 with green eyes/red-ish hair, I do wear some stubble but this can certainly be removed if so desired – may I ask is this a sensory thing, or just a visual preference?

There’s so much more I would like to say, but I feel I’m rambling and probably shouldn’t take up more of your time. If you don’t feel I am right for you, I do understand and would wish you the very best of luck in your search. Finally it was a little difficult writing some of this, I do hope you respect my honesty.

Thank you