Hello! I hope to give you enough of an idea about who I am to lure you in, but we can fill in the details after I catch your attention.

Physical description.

White, ample freckles.

6 foot 2 ~240 pounds broad chested.

Admittedly a bit of a dad bod.

Thick wavy red/blonde hair just shy of touching my shoulders, often back in a pony.

Short ish beard much darker red.

Happy to exchange names and photos after a few messages back and forth.

Ideally I would like a short physical description of you in your opening message.

I'm about three months removed from the end of a year long dynamic that centered primarily on.

Orgasm, wardrobe and bladder control.

Degredation, humiliation, impact play, overstim.

Now looking for a new dynamic and am open to what kinks may be involved in that.

The reality is I simply enjoy exerting control over your life in just about any manner.

Things ended amicably. But if you have questions I'm willing to answer them perhaps with a little obfuscation to preserve their privacy.

I am an avid reader, a live theatre enthusiast and a gamer of boards, tables and video.

I have a large family and adore my nieces and nephews. With no desire to have any children of my own.

Iove cats, tolerate dogs and am allergic to both. Leading me to live vicariously through others to get my kitty fix.

I wouldn't say I love my job but I am good at it and it has allowed me the quality of life and work life balance that I desire.

I would like to be able to discuss more than just kink with you. Sharing in your small victories and daily struggles.

If you're reading this, kindly begin your message by telling me the color of your current toothbrush. (How's that for a bot filter?)

Communication. Excessive communication.

Lots and lots of questions when entering into a new kink or task even if both my partner and I are experienced in it, if it's new to "us" we discuss.

In one dynamic I ran a point shop, regarding my submissive with points for good behavior that they could spend on the shop on small rewards.

I would always award them points for asking clarifying questions when presented with instructions to encourage them to speak up when in doubt about intent.

Frequent check ins, even if that means hearing "nope! All good" repeatedly.

I like to start with the same questions usually

"Is there anything I can be doing more or less of? Is there anything I haven't done at all that you would like me to?"

Then follow with more pointed questions regarding recent or upcoming events.

An example being "Would you prefer that I use the word restroom instead of pee when granting permission during bladder control? I've noticed you tend to use it when asking"

Always the goal is "fun" bad feelings. If I'm making you the wrong kind of uncomfortable it's important that I know.

Boundaries.

I intend to keep this an entirely online dynamic with no plans to pursue an in person meeting.

Though I would like to find something long term.

Similarly I do not plan to share voice or video of myself, and photos will generally be safe for work and avoid my face.

I will also take steps to keep aspects of my life private chiefly the specifics of where I live.

If none of this is a deal breaker.

If I've managed to pique your interests or tickle your curiosity.

If you are still searching for a firm hand and a guiding voice.

Reach out~