I am looking for a serious, exclusive, long-term relationship that also has a kink dynamic. The dynamic should always be there in some form (not looking for something limited to the bedroom), but at the same time, I want us to have a normal life outside of kink too. In short, having both and finding the right balance. I am on the demisexual spectrum in the sense that sex for me is not a means in and of itself, but an extension to an emotional connection. I don’t engage in D/s play without having an emotional connection first. And the main reason I engage in D/s is to deepen that connection. Outside the kink dynamic, I want us to be best friends, able to laugh together and do anything from a cozy movie night to various hobbies to traveling and going on adventures together. The relationship should allow for some alone time too, as well as hobbies and things each of us calls their own.

Things the both of us should have in common: no smoking, drugs, or history thereof. A preference to only drink modestly, if at all (in my case). A desire to live healthy and stay in shape. Integrity and loyalty are core values. A commitment to open and honest communication. A „us as a couple versus whatever the issue is“ attitude rather than a „you versus me“ one. A clear understanding that emotions, especially negative ones, should not be suppressed but acknowledged and processed. Random insert to see if you actually read things: if you message me, start the message with your favorite kink. A reasonably high sex drive as well as a desire for a good amount of non-sexual intimacy, e.g., cuddles and hugs. A preference to keep all things D/s private or anonymous. An understanding that building trust and a real connection takes time, a desire to not rush things, starting out with a lot of texting, and letting things progress naturally from there.

About me: introverted thinker, smart, goal-oriented, and self-disciplined. A calm and steady presence, consistent, reliable, loyal, and secure attachment type. Striving for knowledge and wisdom, with a growth mindset. 183cm (6ft) tall, green eyes, short brown hair (MPB), a thin/slim figure, wearing glasses or contacts, and white (Swiss national and ancestry). Successful career in finance, based in Switzerland. I am interested in history, geopolitics, economics, tech, linguistics (focus on east asian languages), philosophy, amongst other things. I enjoy going for nice walks in nature as well as bouldering and swimming.

About you: cisgender woman, single, no kids. You are comfortable with your own femininity and have natural submissive tendencies, strongly leaning towards being a good girl rather than being bratty. You are able and willing to travel with your partner and are open to eventually relocating to Switzerland (German speaking part), if not here already.

If this sounds interesting to you and you think we might be a good fit, send me a chat or DM. Please put some effort into your message and include a description of yourself, what you are looking for, and why you think we might be a good fit. Low-effort messages will be ignored.