Hello there and thank you for taking the time to read this ad.

So, for context first, i'm a married man, i'm 40, and i have a kid. So, this situation will obviously limit the depth of what i will be able to explore or what i'll be able to commit to. But rest assured, i'm very much intending to do the most i can along the availabilities i have.

Also, i'm french, so forgive me if the wording is sometimes a bit off. In terms of looks, i'm told to be rather good looking and to look way younger than my age. Body type wise, i'd say i'm a lean and fit kind of guy.

Who i am as a kinkster :

I'm someone who has always been drawned to bdsm and kink. As a teenager, i played online regularly with strangers, submitting to Webcam sessions involving your typical stuff (Spanking, self-bondage, being ordered around, exposing myself, CBT, tease and denial, orgasm control, using toys, etc.) and i enjoyed those experiences very much. They culminated a few times through people i played with several times over a short period, but i never really got to commit to an actual mid\long term D\s dynamic.

IRL, i have 0 experience as a sub, but i have introduced my wife to submission, though it remains very light plays and happens only when we have a few days without the kid around. Tbh, i never managed to fully reveal the extent of my inner desires to anyone, even my wife despite the fact we still experienced quite a bunch together. Why ? because i perfectly know she's not a kinkster at heart, and i dont want her to feel bad about it or force herself in any way.

Bottom line of those experience, is that i consider myself quite knowledgeable with kink and power dynamics. I know what's needed to make it work, to make it safe, and that it's not just a "get what you need and be gone" thing.

Lately, my experiences as a sub online have mostly been limited to the odd session now and then through the XTOYS platform that allows strangers to connect to a session and control toys such as estim devices, vibrators etc. Most of the time, it didnt really have that "D\s" flavor, and lacked actual person to person interactions.

Kink wise, i'm pretty open : Selfbondage, protocol, rules, position training, exposure, impact play, CBT, body writing, degradation, chastity, orgasm control, etc. You can find a complete kinklist here if you want all the details. It also includes a tab listing all the toys i own. Obviously, this is the kind of thing that needs to be talked about, so i wont dwelve on it too much : https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1c3UJgRUgXljTVT8CutlQODKaG5JewG1_wdYHrnJ32NI/edit?usp=sharing

What i'm looking for :

What i'm hoping to find is a connection with a like minded person, or persons. Maybe even someone in a situation similar to mine that needs an outlet for bdsm in an otherwise busy daily life. I've experienced sessions with both men and women online and i dont have a preference, as in my experience they both were very different in their approach, and i enjoyed both.

I m looking to let out the sub in me. And i love discovering how different people approach Domination and submission, even if without actual physical contact. I want to have fun. If you feel like having me act like a pet, or just want to watch me wiggle tied up while you tease me with toys, or if you like higher protocol scenes and want to actually train me for specific tasks, i'm curious of mostly everything.

And if we click, and we want to explore something less casual that stills fits my daily life, even better. I leave no doors closed. Availability wise for actual play, it will mostly be at times when i'm alone at home, which happens a couple of times a week. Outside of those times, i will still be available just to chat, or keep in touch.

Who i'm looking for :

As i said before, gender doesnt really matter to me. Ideally someone in a similar situation, but i'm open to discuss with anyone who feels this could be interesting for them. What might matter though is your TimeZone. I'm in France, so someone from Europe seems to make sense, though again it's not a dealbreaker if you're not and feel like our schedules might still work.

In terms of experience, i'd rather you have some, but if you're a complete beginner it's okay with me as well. Just be honest about it, and i can be a decent training ground as someone who switched (Dont think a Dom\me never learns from a sub.)

Obviously, someone who will understand when real life takes priority, and someone that doesnt immediatly talks to me like i'm a freakin dog.

So, now what ?

Well, nothing much really. If you feel like you want to know more about me, or want to play with me, or just want to take a quick peek at me, just hit me up here on reddit and we'll see where it leads.

Looking forward to hearing from you.