Howdy.

Preface: Looking for F, T, or NB folks, not actually A. Tried to make my flair not A and just for F/T/NB folks but apparently anything beyond 2 characters is a direct attack on the bot. Assuming I can even make a post now cause I remade this twice already. Sorry gents, not searching for y'all.

Not looking for anyone poly, nor DDlg. Nothing wrong with either, just not for me. I don't want to be a third or a side-thing for someone in a polycule, and the furthest I'll go is letting my partner call me 'Daddy'.

For Online. Comes with caveats. I'm willing to talk, chat, etc, maybe a little play. But ultimately I am looking for someone in person, so if we look to pursue this, you have to be someone able to travel. ***NOT IMMEDIATELY***, but be in a position to be able to travel *at some point*. I *can* but I'm saving for various things, among said things is to travel. You don't have to come to me specifically, we can both meet somewhere else on a vacation or such, but if you're out of work and can't save or just want me to come to you because you don't want to travel yourself, that won't work for me.

Anyway. If that fucking preamble hasn't turned you off already, howdy, welcome to the shitshow(no there's no scat here, though I am very vulgar).

I've been interested in BDSM and the lifestyle for a couple years now and I've been wanting more of it for a long time only recently has my life stabilized mostly that I can really think about things more long term. I've graduated college, moved out and bought my own house, got a full time job, etc. Though what's rough is I spent a lot of my time chugging through school and being a bit awkward just not doing a good job in the relationship aspect of life. So while not only inexperienced in the BDSM field I'm just inexperienced. But I've been hanging around, lurking in the community, fantasizing, etc, and I still feel like it's something I'd want to try and involve in my life. A big fear of mine, relationship wise, is if I end up finding a partner that just isn't interested or worse finds it disgusting, and while the topic is never brought up again, that whole aspect of life is totally cut off from me. I want to at least be able to taste it and see if it's something I would like to keep long term.

So about me, I guess. I'm a guy, 29, from Louisiana. I graduated in CompSci and have a full time job in tech. Own my own vehicle and home, currently living with my dog, a cat as well now, solo living now.

I'm a little on the heavier side, 5'10" and 203(currently on a cut diet), heavily bearded and quite hairy all around. Minus my head, totally shaved for now(maybe permanent). If you imagine a stereotypical "bear" in the community, pretty similar. I'll give pics if you want, of course.

I'm big on video games and stuff, very nerdy and enjoy watching YouTube and movies, playing DnD or TTRPGs(maybe a kinky DnD campaign could be on the horizon?). Started getting back into reading lately, got a tablet and on the weekends I'll go sit at a coffee shop and read some. I've also got other hobbies, but I'll save that for other times, not exactly a dating forum(not opposed though). My new personality is the gym, basically. I've been slamming it since March 2023 after I got COVID in December 2022. I got a personal trainer, go to the gym 6 days out of the week and Saturdays or Sundays as a rest day. My current trainer is a killer and works me to death but it's great. I jokingly say I want to get big "choke me Daddy" arms so if you're looking to be a pet gym-rat, let me know. I also recently started going to therapy so workin' on the brain too.

Sex wise, as I said, not much experience. We'll keep it at that. Kink wise I have a lot of interests, there's not much I'm against outright, on the realistic side of things. Bathroom play I'm against, as well as any cutting or blood. Generally I like the idea of being a bit more of a soft/gentle dominant, carrot rather than the stick. But if my partner is into the stick, I'm more than happy to oblige. Restraints, teasing, pain play, toys, orgasm control/denial, pet play, collaring, you name it, I'm probably into. I'd love to try playing with hypnosis, real or not, the idea is very fun. I also like to play smut games to satisfy the more unrealistic/fantasy kinks, so being able to talk to someone about those and play them together, etc, would be fun. I'm also a little bit of a switch. If we were to quantify it, I'd say 80/20 or 90/10 dom-to-sub. I like to control but being able to give up that control sometimes is pretty nice too.

Also a little bi. Still consider myself generally hetero but just about anyone that's more on the femme side of life I'm into. I debated making the flair [M4F/T/NB] but figured I was already getting long in the tooth(and still angered the bot). But I'm into femboys/femmes/transfems(whatever you prefer), anyone on the more femme side. To me, so long as I think they're cute/attractive, don't really care what they've got going on down below. I just want us to both be mutually attracted to each other, physically as well as emotionally, intellectually, sexually, etc.

So what about you? Preferably you're someone willing to talk at first, get to know each other. If you're more experienced as a sub, be willing to be 1. Patient and 2. to teach and tell me what you enjoy. If you're more inexperienced then I guess we'll just have to learn together! I'd prefer someone 22-40, I could go older, probably not going any younger. My best friend told me one day, "You've got divorced 30 year old all over you." (as in I'm the perfect for 30 something divorcees if you know any) You'd want a relationship out of this probably. Not just something purely for fun. Like we'd have to like each other as people and want to actually be together outside of being strapped to sex toys.

Outside of sex, (assuming you're nearby or willing to relocate eventually) preferably you'd be able to support yourself. I've recently gotten my own independence and while I'm able to support myself, I'm still living a bit check-to-check. If I made double my current salary, yea, we could talk about a stay-at-home sub situation(eventually), but as of now I'd want someone that could pay for their own bills and not be financially dependent on me. As for location, if you're in Louisiana/nearby, if we talk and you're interested we could end up meeting if we're comfortable. If you're coming in from just online searching, like I said above, I can't do online/LDR. But want to chat about kink, or sex games, or even discuss an 18 DnD/TTRPG game, feel free to message and we can shoot the shit.

I guess I've rambled enough, should wrap this post up. In general, I'm looking for a partner. One willing to live the life but also willing to get to know me and be interested beyond the leather and latex.

Well, y'all have a good day, feel free to message me for questions or comments.