Hey all, I’m Jay. I like the title already suggests I’m a 30 year old guy living and working in Amsterdam. Where I have my life in order nicely, good job, my own apartment and a great social life. Lately I’ve been exploring my submissive side some more again. I do have some previous experience, but it’s been a while and I’m itching to serve someone again.

A bit about me: Well by now you know the basics, but other than than I’m 1,85m tall and quite skinny. I shave my head and I have a bit of a beard, there’s some (very NSFW) photos in my profile.

My hobbies include analog photography, and showing people the extremely average results of that hobby. I also love going on my boat when the weathers nice, and luckily the results of that are a bit better! I have many more interests and love to talk about basically anything remotely interesting. I really like to talk to people and I’m the type of guy that quickly engages in friendly banter with people on the street, in shops and at social gatherings etc. So I’m definitely a social person.

In relationships I’m a caring person. And like to make sure my partner is happy and satisfied. I’ve always been this way, even in vanilla relationships, and it was because of this that I found out I’d might like to submit to someone fully. And when I finally did for the first time it really clicked in my brain!

My biggest kinks are ass and pussy worship, humiliation (not public), degration, ass play (on me), mild sadism and praise. Although I’m probably forgetting a few, I am very open minded and willing to try basically anything apart from a few limits, so any of your major kinks are probably on the table!

Those limits are scat, blood, permanent harm/marks, CBT, extreme pain and findom.

What I’m looking for: I’m looking for a dominant woman between the ages of 22 and 45 (give or take) who lives in or reasonably close to Amsterdam. If we really click and I have to travel a bit further within the Netherlands that’s no problem, I just don’t have a car.

I’m looking for a long term play-partner, in whatever form. Could be fwb, could be a relationship.

I hope you have some experience in being dominant or, if not, are very comfortable in that role. As my ideal Domme you are very strict, demanding and maybe a tiny bit sadistic. You have very little tolerance for disobedience or mistakes and definitely make me work hard for your pleasure and entertainment. You set strict rules for me and show no mercy when those rules are broken even a little bit. I can be a little bratty, but you make short work of that and break me back into submission.

I’m looking to sub mostly in the bedroom only, although I’d be open to some orders & rules outside of that as well. As long as it doesn’t interfere with work or other social activity.

I don’t really have a type when it comes to woman, but I do have a slight preference for skinny and petite. But don’t hesitate to respond if you don’t fit that criteria, as it’s only a very slight preference.

Lastly, I am looking for an IRL domme only, not online.

Oh well, this has become quite a novel. Anyway, if you liked what I had to say don’t hesitate to reach out. I’d love to chat a bit and see if we click, preferably over coffee/drinks!

X, Jay