Hi everyone. I’m a 42-year-old man living in the north of England. I’m single (never married) and I’m looking to meet a younger, submissive woman for friendship initially, with a view to a long-term relationship. Ideally, you’ll be based in the UK or Europe.

The kind of dynamic I’m looking for in the long run is one where I take the lead and am head of the household, providing protection and support and guidance for my partner, along with strict but caring discipline when it’s needed. A relationship where I help my partner to be the person she wants to be, including by setting rules and boundaries and enforcing them with scoldings and spankings. Communication and overarching consent are key - this is something we’d need to work up to slowly and by mutual consent. I may be strict, but I’m not a sadist, so it’s all about approaching things in a way that works for us both.

I find shyness and nervousness attractive, and I like to provide guidance to the girl I’m with, as well as emotional support and reassurance, lots and lots of cuddles (especially with my partner sitting on my knee), holding hands, physical affection, and forehead kisses. I love to look after my partner and make her feel safe and secure, and I think I’m pretty good with people who are on the shy or anxious side, or who are nervous because of inexperience. I don't mind if you have no experience at all or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you.

I’m looking for someone who is submissive in the bedroom as well as in the relationship as a whole. I’m not going to list a load of specific kinks, because half the fun is working out what we like together. But I like to take the lead, take control, and for my partner to give herself to me entirely. That might mean me giving you instructions, telling you exactly what I want you to do, regularly having you kneel in front of me, or gently tying your hands to the bed and putting a blindfold on you while I give you pleasure (or a bit of pain) in any way that I choose. It might mean you being available for me whenever I want you. And it will almost certainly involve me putting you over my knee for sound spankings on a regular basis. The psychological side of all this is as important as the physical, and this comes with time and patience and trust - it’s something that needs to develop organically and which should feel like the most natural thing in the world; it’s definitely not something to be rushed into on day one.

Spanking is a particular kink of mine, whether for fun and foreplay, “funishment”, or real discipline. It’s a big turn-on and helps to reinforce the dynamic between us. The ritual of spanking is also really important. Warning you that you’ll be spanked if you misbehave, giving you ‘the look’ that gives you butterflies in your tummy, sending you to the bedroom to wait for me, standing you in front of me and scolding you, placing you over my knee, giving you a sound spanking on your bare bottom, and lots of cuddles, reassurance, and forgiveness afterwards. And of course when you do behave well, you’ll receive a lot of praise!

In the normal world, I’m 6ft tall, about 175lbs, slim, and in good shape. I’m intelligent, well-educated, successful, and attractive. I live alone and have my own house and car and a great group of friends. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I tend to see the lighter side of life and think that laughing is often the most important thing. I like to spend time outdoors (camping and walking), I love reading and quiet nights in watching films and TV series. I also like the odd night out at the theatre or to see live music.

I tend to be attracted to slim or petite women. I don’t mind your age, but would prefer you to be younger than me (adults only, obviously). I’d love to meet someone intelligent, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. Someone with her own interests and friends. Someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who is not (and has never been) into casual encounters. Someone curious about the world and who dreams of meeting a man she can grow to trust and respect. Although I started with the kinky stuff, that’s just because it’s the hardest thing to find. It’s really important that any relationship works in normal ways too. I would expect us to take our time getting to know each other so we can build trust and understanding before moving to anything physical.

Finally, I’ve started writing spanking stories, and there’s one on Reddit you can find via my profile (scroll to the bottom of my post history). If you like it, it’s a good sign we’ll get on!

If you’d like to chat, please send me a chat request and introduce yourself (or just say ‘hi’ if you’re not sure what to write!).