I'm not sorry about that pun. I'm a daddy and I got the dad jokes to prove it.

The first time I felt like a “dom” was with a friend who had been active in the kink community for most of her adult life. This was a few years ago and she was the first person I was with since my divorce. She told me she liked getting properly spanked and I had never done that besides some ass slapping during sex. So she came over and I had her lay naked face-down across my lap. I had no plan but from the first touch in that position, I felt at home. A flip switched in my mind that I never even knew was there. I had absolute power to do as I pleased. For the first time in long time, I felt in control.

For almost an hour I kept her in that position. Using both hands all across her bare skin- from the back of her neck to the tips of her toes. Light touch, firm gropes, and of course plenty of spanking. At any given moment she didn't know what I'd do next because I didn't know what I'd do next. I was present in a way I had never been before. And the contrast of soft and hard contact drove her wild- which only empowered me further.

I loved hearing every gasp escape her lips. The moans that grew more unbridled and desperate with each spank. I could have been in that position (and kept her in that position) all fucking night. But we didn't have all that time, so I ultimately finished the session by plunging my fingers inside her throbbing wet pussy and made her unexpectedly squirt all over me. That was a good night. And the first time I heard the term “pleasure dom”. She had been spanked by many people over the years but apparently never like that.

Since then, I've experienced and learned a lot more. I've had a couple proper dynamics- both online and in person. And I miss that feeling of control right now.

I am a gentle dom. A pleasure dom. A caregiver type. I'm a father in real life and maybe that carries over a bit. I have excess dad energy as my kids are with their mom 80% of time. So I'm someone who has extra time, attention and care to give.

I'll ease your mind when you're feeling overwhelmed. I'll remind you to drink your water. I'll check in to ensure you made it home safe. I'll read to you in bed to help you sleep. I'll give you a routine to help you be your best self. I'll make sure you're taken care of- mind, body and soul. And I'll use you for my pleasure because you're a good girl who knows that I know what's best for you.

That said, I'm not looking for age regression. I want to see you for the complex woman that you are. All of you. I want to know your naked body and mind- and not necessarily in that order. I'm not looking to rush into a dynamic. But I am looking for an honest connection- and we can take it from there.

If you read all this and want to respond, tell me your age, general location, and why you're writing. And as you can see my tall dad bod (and more) in my post history, I'd appreciate knowing what you look like even if it's not a photo at this time. But be willing to verify sooner rather than later if we do get along.

Happy black (and blue) Friday to you and your ass.

Told you.