Welcome. I see the title got your attention. I always struggled to be succinct (as the length of this post demonstrates). But if I did it right, it should have encapsulated everything I wish to build with you. I emphasize the term with as I am very much looking for a partner. I want a relationship that has the potential to go the distance both in terms of BDSM and our vanilla lives. For that reason, my priority is to build a rapport and connection first, a solid foundation for a lasting dynamic. In line with that, the kink is at the bottom of this post (in case you’d rather jump to the fun part). I wanted to be thorough, though, so be warned it’s a long read. But I digress, on to business.

Who am I?

I’m 5’11”, European, with hazel eyes, short brown hair, and in good shape (see pic on profile). I speak 3 languages and recently graduated from university, with solid career prospects and a plan to one day go the entrepreneurial route all going well. I’m direct and honest; have a dark sense of humor and no fear of speaking my mind; and I try every day to be the most caring and upright guy I can be. I’ve had some dynamics before and know my way around BDSM rather well. Location wise, I prefer something in-person; if you’re anywhere within the greater Montreal area (or driving distance thereof), you’re my target audience.

Who are you?

If the title didn’t give it away, and my long-form writing didn’t scare you away, I’m looking for my own bubbly submissive nerd girl. I want someone high on life, who can seamlessly go from serious, to teasing and silly, to submissive and back again. Ideally, we share some common interests (and I have a lot of interests) but that’s not a must-have. What is a must-have though is being a good conversationalist; I mean what’s the point of gagging a woman who has nothing to say? That’s perhaps light on specifics yes, but that’s because what ultimately makes or breaks this is the dynamic between you and me. I find that, when the dynamic is just right, it permeates every moment of the relationship. Even the most mundane interaction can radiate that dom/sub energy, and it’s a truly wonderful way to be! As such, even if we don’t align on everything, I believe that it can easily be overlooked if we “vibe” in that special unmistakable way.

What’s vanilla me like?

In terms of lifestyle, I’m someone who takes mental and physical health quite seriously; and I’d prefer someone who shares my lifestyle, so we can grow to be better, happier, and healthier together. I regularly lift weights (built a weight room), and go hiking or running whenever possible. I don’t smoke or take drugs, and I (mostly) stick to clean unprocessed foods from day to day. I value my mental health a lot and devote considerable time to good sleep, focused meditation, and ample time outdoors (often with my dog). All of the above comes from a place of always looking to grow and improve as a person; I view it as a perpetual journey and have read much and experimented much in pursuit of that ideal.

Active life and zen stuff aside, I also have an eclectic list of hobbies including such diverse interests as firearms, cooking (a skill and an art imo), classical literature, DIY, and writing (including some rather detailed fiction for previous subs). Honestly, I’m just a naturally curious outgoing sorta guy who never passes up the opportunity for a new experience. For instance, next year I’m planning to visit Colorado after randomly befriending a US Marine from Denver and talking about the national parcs there.

I’m very attracted to intellect. Eclectic knowledge, sharp wit, and the intellectual depth and curiosity to discuss it all is in my eyes the most attractive characteristic a woman can have. I myself have delved into damn near everything from ancient philosophy, to homesteading, to computer science; so it’s easier to just say I know a little about a lot and a lot about a little. It may be the ADHD (I seem to get along best with those who share that trait); it may be a natural sense of curiosity and adventure; but either way I love those with whom I can share all that. Politically I’m right wing (more than anything a libertarian) and religiously a practicing Orthodox Christian. I also hold a fairly traditional view of marriage and relationships; this includes taking the leading role of provider and protector and wanting children. I am, however, very open-minded; and I’m always ready to discuss things with those who disagree with me. That said, I’d prefer someone who’s more in line with views and background than not, and I imagine many would feel the same.

Okok, what about the part we’re actually here for?

Well, if you made it this far, here’s the fun stuff, the kink we came all the way to reddit to find. In no particular order, here are most my favorites:
-Anal training
-Brat taming
-Orgasm control (denial, edging, forced, etc.)
-Collaring
-TPE
-Nipple/breast play
-Bondage
-Choking/breath play
-Spanking
-Gags
-Degradation
If you don’t see all your kinks listed there, or see some you don’t particularly like, that’s okay. I’m rather flexible on kinks and there’s more than what I’ve listed here which I have experimented with or am open to. The way I see it the goal is mutual pleasure, maximizing the strength of our dynamic; the exact kinks we apply are just different roads to the same destination. And like any drive through the perpetual construction site that is Montreal, you never take the same road twice. In terms of domination style, I’m quite partial towards the TPE owner archetype (brats are also fun to punish and train); but again, open to a lot of different things. As far as I’m concerned, half the fun is figuring out exactly what gets under your sub’s skin and makes her go all fuzzy in the head, so let’s experiment! Beyond that, I’m a naturally protective guy, and I really believe submission has to be earned. I want you -an intelligent, capable, gorgeous girl- to submit to me because you trust me, you admire me, you feel safe letting go and giving yourself to me fully, without hesitation. That’s a real dom, and that’s what I want to be for you. A tall order perhaps; but I believe, with the right girl, and a loving, genuine, intimate connection, it can be done.

Closing

Well, if you made it this far, I applaud your attention span lol. I know how long winded I can be. I hope you enjoyed that and hope to hear from you soon. Regardless, I wish you all luck in your searches.