About Me: I’m a 57-year-old quirky, somewhat nerdy, queer, cis male living near Tulsa, OK. As a neurodivergent person, likely on the spectrum, I bring a unique perspective to life. I have several tattoos, and my ears are pierced and gauged (10g?). I work full-time for a large communications company and am a full-time college student, balancing my professional and academic pursuits with passion and dedication. I own my home and car and live peacefully with my dog and two cats.

Vanilla Me: I enjoy reading, especially high-fantasy (think Lord of the Rings) and post-apocalyptic fiction. I enjoy watching crime dramas (NCIS, FBI, etc.) and action-adventure or high-fantasy movies. I play D&D when I can and have hundreds of dice. I prefer 80s, 90s, and 2000s hard rock and love attending concerts (I’m seeing Disturbed and Linkin Park in 2025). I love nature, although I don’t get out to the river as often as I would like. I value a person’s right to choose what happens to their body, anti-racism, and am generally left-leaning, politically.

Kink Me: I’ve been in and out of the lifestyle since I was 19 and have been continually active in the kink and Leather community for the past 14 years. One of my favorite things to do is to serve my community by volunteering at large Leather conferences nationwide. I value education, growth, honesty, integrity, respect, emotional and physical intimacy, effort, companionship, and communication (and understanding). I have been in many different types of Authority Transfer dynamics and am open to negotiating what that would look like for us. I generally identify as a Daddy; however, I also have a sadistic side (in play). I’m happy to engage in Impact Play, Sharps Play, Fire Play, and others. I should mention that I don’t do rope.

About you: Ideally, you have some experience in Authority Transfer relationships, understand consent and boundaries, are willing to learn and explore, have done some healing from past traumas (we all have them), are willing and able to engage daily, and are interested in meeting in person. It would be best if you were 30ish years old or older and not have a lot of drama in your life (I’m not interested in “saving” anyone). If you are new to the lifestyle, I am open to talking, but please have some understanding of what a dynamic entails and be open to learning. You should value deep connection and be open to exploring both the sensual and psychological aspects of this type of relationship. I appreciate emotional and physical intimacy and am looking for a partner who is also seeking a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.

Currently, I am only interested in AFAB women and non-binary partners. I am also only open to monogamish relationships (I’m okay with my partner having non-sexual play partners), as I would like to be a priority in my partner’s life, just as you would be a high priority in mine. I don’t play games in relationships; my only ulterior motive is to love and be loved.

Please message me if you have read all of this and are interested in chatting. I’d love to know what your favorite animal is and what interested you about my ad. You can find a picture of me on my profile, and although I am primarily demi-sexual, attraction does play a part, so I’d love to see a picture of you, as well.