Hi! I’m Emily, I’m 32 and live in the central east part of Illinois. I have quite a bit of experience with long distance relationships and as a Midwesterner, I love a good road trip, so I am open to people pretty much anywhere in the continental US. I’m open to online only if that’s how it works out, but I’m also down to travel and meet up with the right person.

I’ve been married for 14 years and we have been nonmonogamous/poly for the majority of that time(started out ENM and then switched to poly after about a year). We date separately. I'm looking for something long-term because I am someone who tends to get attached and doesn’t just jump from relationship to relationship. This type of dynamic also involves being incredibly vulnerable so I am looking for someone who understands the level of trust involved and takes it seriously. Obviously building a connection takes time, but I do want an actual partner not just someone to fool around with occasionally. "Casual" is not really a word I use to describe anything I'm looking for whether it be in reference to sex or the relationship itself. The two most important things I’m looking for are consistency and communication. Almost everything else is negotiable.

I’m gonna do the rest of this in list form because that is the best way to do it without turning this post into a novel.

About me:

• 5’2”, plus-size/BBW, long dark blond/light brown hair, blue eyes, glasses

• I identify as a little. Willing and able to go more into detail what that means to me if we chat, but as a broad overview I don't consider myself an age-player or experience traditional regression, I tend to explain it as just having a deeper connection to the child-like side of myself than the average person. It's a safety and comfort thing to me and there is also a kink element to it as well but for the most part that tends to basically be a "softer" version of a D/s dynamic.

• I am polyamorous. As mentioned above, I'm married and date separately from my husband. We practice non-hierarchical polyamory. That means that no relationship is more important or "above" another. There are also no pre-set limits to what my relationships can entail other than the fact that the government frowns upon bigamy. I am also not looking to create a harem of men either, my intention for this post is to find one long-term partner who is interested in a DD/lg dynamic in addition to the "normal"(for lack of a better word) side of a relationship as well. If you have any questions/concerns about what polyamory means for me in general or in relation to the DD/lg dynamic, I'm happy to answer them.

• I love to cook a wide variety of food and feeding people is one of my favorite ways to show love

• Horror movies are my jam even though I am a big baby when it comes to gore and will often end up watching some scenes through my fingers or over the top of the blanket I’m shielding my face with. I enjoy pretty much all sub-genres except for creature features although my favorites are older slashers and psychological horror.

• I like to binge watch tv shows and I also enjoy rewatching my favorites over and over again. My three favorite shows are probably Law and Order SVU, Friends, and Twin Peaks.

• I also enjoy watching cartoons and animated movies in general but especially when I am feeling more little

• I’m a gamer. Mostly cozy games because I use it as a way to de-stress

• I’m a big football fan. Specifically cheer for the Pittsburgh Steelers. No problem if you're not or you cheer for another team, but I would be thrilled if you were a fellow member of Steeler Nation.

• Cat person, with two cats who I consider my babies. But I don’t dislike dogs either

• As far left politically as you can possibly imagine

• Neurodivergent and chronically ill

• A night owl with a flexible schedule. I tend to stay up late and I'm not a morning person, but beyond that my schedule is not very strict. I've got responsibilities and stuff that need to be done obviously, but most things are not on any sort of strict time schedule.

• 420 friendly(mostly used to manage symptoms of the previously mentioned chronic illness, but nothing against recreational users), very occasional drinker but no problem with people who drink more often

• Since this is a BDSM sub, kink-wise I am into DD/lg, D/s, impact play, praise, light degradation and bondage. There are definitely more but those are the big ones.

Who I’m looking for:

• A man between the ages of 30-45ish(the lower end of that range is more firm than the upper end)

• No specific physical must haves, it’s more about personality for me, but if you have facial hair you get bonus points, and you get even more if it’s well-maintained

• Someone who preferably has some experience being a Daddy Dom. Obviously every dynamic is different and finding what works for us will take time, but I would like a potential partner to who have at least some idea of what they're looking for out of this.

• Not a requirement by any means but I would love to find somebody who wanted to game with me, I play a lot of cozy games that support multiplayer like Minecraft and Stardew Valley so more bonus points if you would be open to playing with me

• Someone who is not conservative politically. There are some things I will agree to disagree on, but I will never click with someone who feels that human rights are debatable

• Someone who is poly. You don't need to currently have other partners or necessarily want more than one at the moment, but if you are looking for monogamy I am not the person for you.

• Someone who has free time to commit to a relationship. Obviously I’m married and also have other IRL commitments so I don’t expect 24/7 constant communication but I do want regular daily or at least every other day conversations. In the beginning this will be mostly text/chat but once we get to know one another I am open to phone/video calls as well

• Someone who wants to do more than send naughty texts and pictures back and forth. Nothing wrong with those things, I enjoy them too, but especially in any sort of distance situation it's critical to make time to do things together that aren't sexual in nature to make sure an actual bond/connection is being formed. This could be any manner of things, playing games together, watching movies, tv shows, etc. I'd also be totally down to be introduced to hobbies you enjoy that I don't already participate in as well. I want both of us to feel comfortable sharing our interests with one another.

If that second list describes you and you’re interested in the first list, feel free to DM me. Please include some information about yourself and what caught your eye in my post if you message me. I’m looking forward to hearing from you!