*this sub is really bad about the tags, but I'm queer and cis guys, trans guys, trans girls, nb, and others are welcome

**Please be in Chicagoland. I cannot do distance on my schedule.

Hey there. I've posted before, but mostly to chat online. I want to make a good in-person connection with someone who wants to explore these kinks. I want to explore a fun, mutual, intense and adventurous dynamic.

In real life, I'm a mild-mannered white-collar professional, hockey player, left wing activist, and bookworm. Regrettably, I'm in grad school. I'm 5'7'' and have a fit-but-chubby cub bod. If you don't like short kings with bellies, click away now.

The core thing that drives me is strong D/s dynamics. Master and slave, Owner and puppy, Daddy/sub. But I am not satisfied by just the bedroom. I like being controlling, caring, domineering, and setting rules that go outside the bedroom. I enjoy when control, power exchange, and dynamics extend to our lives.

I don't want to make you introduce me to your grandma as your Alpha Master. But I want thumb the collar you wear in my house while we cuddle and play video games.

Maybe you want a Daddy who can use you like a helpless pet and be a supportive source of structure in your life. Maybe you want to be turned into an objectified slave, observing strict discipline and ironclad rules. Maybe you see yourself texting me about desperately straining in chastity at work. Maybe you had a crush on your high school bully and want a guy who will lovingly and mercilessly pick on you. Or maybe you want to be the sweet and obedient pet of an adoring Master. Or any mix of the above... I want to fill your need for a strong, caring but firm Dom in your life. And I want us both to love every second of it.

Obligatory laundry list: Control, power exchange, BDSM, humiliation, degradation, chastity, edging, orgasm control/denial, foot worship, puppy and pet play, gooning, poppers, joi, latex, leather, gimp play, heavy bondage, strict discipline and slave training, household service, cuckoldry, musk huffing, it/its pronouns, objectification, the list goes on and on. I have a special interest lately in hypnosis, including mental control, reconditioning and Pavlovian response training. I'm very verbal, and I'm told I have a natural talent.

Limits: Not many besides your usual scat, blood and illegal things. Also ABDL. Sorry baby littles, I'm not the Daddy you're looking for.

Important: I have a partner. We don't play together much, and they know I'm looking for something like this. I'm not looking for hookups - I'm looking for a connection.

I'm also bi/queer. I tend towards people who ID as males but I'm open to cis guys, ftm / trans guys, mtf / trans girls, NBs, queers, other, etc.

If you're interested, let me know. Please put some effort into your response, and mention your age. And tell me what drives you. What you're hoping for. What need you've been trying to fill for some time. I hope to hear from you.