Hi,

I’ve been dating over the last few years and have come to terms with my need for a dynamic in my lifelong relationships—something out of the ordinary.

I am predominantly a switch, though I’ve leaned more submissive over the past couple of years. I want to find a partner who values, respects, and understands my needs. As I write this, I am more certain than ever that, to feel fulfilled, I need a loving partner whom I feel safe and deeply attracted to in order to fully submit. I’m sure many here can understand the yearning I’m speaking of, and I wish to have that yearning met, fully embraced and cared for by a loving life partner.

For me, physical attraction is half the battle in relationships. It’s essential that my partner and I are highly attracted to each other. I’ve shared a few photos of myself at the link below. I hope you can understand that I can’t help needing to be physically attracted to my partner—I’ve tried to change this, but it’s an essential part of connection for me. So, I’ll ask that you don’t mind sharing SFW photos to ensure we’re compatible in this area. Please don’t think that, if you aren’t my type, I don’t find you attractive; we’re all beautiful for being vulnerable in this way.

You should be an active and fit person, ideally slim or petite, though height doesn’t matter to me. (I’m 5’6” if that matters to you, and I won’t be offended if it does.) We all have our preferences and deserve to have our needs met! I take my physical and mental health seriously. I work with a personal trainer 4–6 times a week, and I eat healthy most of the time. I also love to cook! My favorite cuisines are probably Mediterranean and Asian.

I like to read, and I’ve been making music and art my whole life, though I’m now focused on my sales career. I previously worked in healthcare sales for a long time, but I’ve since switched industries.

I’m a homeowner, but I’m not tied to my current location. It’s nice to have my own house, but a house becomes a home with your guiding hand.

I recently wrote a book, which is currently being edited. It’s about my relationships with women and how, through those relationships, I’ve come to know myself better. The book explores love and loss, neglect, childhood trauma, lust, desire, boundaries, and self-respect. I mention this because I’ve explored myself mentally and emotionally throughout my life and find therapy to be a wonderful resource.

I’m open to discussing our kinks, and I won’t shame you for yours, but this post is really about LOVE and the search for that, along with the dynamic. Kinks can be discussed anytime in a chat. :)

Safety is such an important factor—to feel safe with someone is almost everything. And I say “almost” because, to feel safe and love someone is everything. That is what I want in my relationship with you. I hope you’re out there, and I look forward to talking more and getting to know each other :)

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