While I identify as a switch, lately I have been bottom saturated and craving more connections with individuals who are either tops, or lean top. I tend to be most interested in sadists or individuals who enjoy hurting, restraining and denying men such as myself. I don't ever feel that sex is not required when it comes to kink. If you don't necessarily want to mix kink / sex then we may be compatible! The individuals that get off inflicting pain or seeing people stringently bound and gagged for long periods of time... please say hi :)

About me: I am 6’3, 190 pounds with dark hair and overall I have a pretty lean build. Just so you're aware I am engaged to my fiancee. We are open (Poly/ENM) and dating separately. I have been involved in the kink lifestyle for nearly 20 years now and I know that while I have a good foundation there are always new experiences and people to share dynamics with. I would not scene with anyone without finding out more about them first. If you cannot text or have no desire to ever meet in public to see how we vibe then we won't be a good match. I currently live a couple of miles south of Boston but spend a lot of my time in Cambridge, Somerville and Boston. I have a car, can travel, host and have a large collection of kink/BDSM gear such as a bondage chair, cage, frame, electro kit, numerous impact tools and more restraints / gags than would be necessary for probably 10 people hah. There's a good chance that if you are looking for some type of implement to use then I probably have it or would acquire it :D

Kink wise - I love bondage, impact, edging, degradation, sensory deprivation, choking / breath play, CBT, biting, tease / denial just to name a few. I have a full list of my kinks, interests and experience that I would be happy to share! I like flirty and fun kink just as much as I like those intense "heavy" sessions. Aftercare is important. I will never play with anyone who doesn't comprehend or isn't willing to learn about boundaries and safe words. I feel like consent should be an automatic but since it somehow still isn't... consent and communication must always be present and can be revoked at any time. I am hoping to find someone that may have similar interests to my own.

Outside of kink I love gaming whether I am playing, watching, or talking about it. I enjoy having others that I can enjoy this with so if you’re looking for someone to chat / play with then let me know! Board games, online games, mobile games... I am all for it! I do love sports. Hockey, Football, baseball/softball are my top three but not necessarily in that order. I enjoy being active and getting to play as well whenever I have the opportunity. I also enjoy musicals, ballet, and exploring new places. I generally will jump in to try something new because I am always out to have a good time. I would say that I am someone who enjoys communicating frequently. I am open to comets (though in this case distance may not necessarily be a factor), LTR's, or other relationship styles depending on the connection level. I love getting to know people and taking the time to cultivate a good foundation for a relationship regardless of what it may be.

If you made it this far, are intrigued and would like to chat then send me a message and let's see how well we mesh. I look forward to chatting and getting to meet some new people. I am also happy to share my Fetlife with you if you want to browse that as well!