tldr; Hello! I'm a sane (MILDLY Neurospicey) and kinky sub/bottom trans woman in West LA ISO a kinky pleasure Dom/Domme who's experienced with BDSM

I am a 30 year old white trans woman living in West Los Angeles. I've been transitioning for a hair shy of 2 years and have been full time for the last 6 months. I am lucky in that I am not the "will never pass" type: barrel chested, short legs, sausage fingers, receding hairline/bald, etc. I am 5'9" and 150lbs, 34A, curly dark blonde hair past my shoulders with blue eyes, women's size Small/Medium, 29" waist and 40" hips/ass, women's 9 shoe and I'm starting to look into Facial Feminization Surgery options. I mostly pass. I'm looking forward to FFS to address my two biggest issues: Nose and chin. Those are the two things that still get me clocked, however it's less than a 50% chance that someone point blank in my face will clock me.

I wouldn't necessarily describe myself as overly vain (in my mind that's a "problematic" behavior), however I do love to look good and I feel good when I look good. Self care (skincare, makeup, hair, clothes, salon trips) are honestly a calming and affirming thing for me and I love everything about it. I'm still learning makeup (I just do a little more than absolute basics for now since I'm dysphoric about my face and don't want to stand out) but I've mastered my hair and skincare for the most part.

My personality is some combo of reserved and outgoing, anxious and relaxed. I'm an extremely genuine person and have a hard time hiding my intentions from people I like or care about. Authenticity matters to me; both from others to me and myself to others. I can't act or lie to save my life for that same reason, it runs counter to how I act normally. I am a Femme 100% of the way, as far as gender presentation personality goes, but Im not afraid to smash a bug with my hand or fire guns.

Interests: I'm extremely busy with work most of the time so I like to game, read, or code in my free time. When I have time on the weekends, I like going to the beach or grabbing brunch with my friends, hitting the tanning salon, or getting Acupuncture or a deep tissue massage. I'd love to learn the piano, get into astronomy, and get into Planted Tanks provided the time. I'm SCUBA certified however it's been years since I dove last and no longer have gear that fits me unfortunately. I was also a Boy Scout back in the day and am great with guns and love the outdoors. I just did a 7 mile hike through Muir Woods earlier this month as my last excursion. I'm also a gamer too; I'm enjoying the D4 expansion and split my game time between Overwatch, Helldivers2, and Halo with some long time gamer friends of mine. I also build my own PCs! I have my driver's license but no car at the moment - I'll likely get one in the Spring of '25.

I'm college educated and come from a highly technical and entrepreneurial background (Security, Software dev, startup management). I'm a bit of a nerd and work in tech with an insane work schedule, I mostly listen to various types of Metal and Techno (no EDM, no rave stuff), and mostly watch thriller/sci-fi/high-effort arsty media (plus a few anime as exceptions to that), but not that often - I watch maybe one or two series per-season, usually at 1.25x-1.5x speed on a second monitor because I have slight ADHD.

I'm Demisexual. Ish...

I tend to make three easy mental evaluations for relationships in particular:

• Is this person physically attractive enough to want to get to know?

• Is this person attractive on the inside to a degree that I feel engaged or attracted in that way too?

• If the former two criteria are met, then is this person worth pursuing a relationship/sex with?

This usually takes only two or three dates to figure out luckily.

I am Bisexual as well.

I recently discovered that I'm a mild masochist and am interested in finding someone to help me explore that more, and I've also a long-term interest in various forms of bondage and fetish-wear, exhibitionism (within reason), toys, and play parties. I'm also deeply into mental aspects of kink such as objectification (bimbofication, mild misogyny, etc) mild teasing, praise, etc. I'd ideally like to find someone that is comfortable with the fact that I'm technically a newbie in this world and that I will require some hand-holding here. I have only just begun dating in earnest, so I don't "have a lot of mileage" and am D&D free/regularly tested (a little bit of pot once in a while is all I do, no ciggs, no liquor though).

You: A good match for all the above: Educated, sane, kinky, protective, nurturing and understanding, patient, curious, talkative, loves animals and nature, height/weight proportionate, please be a reasonable age in relation to mine, and please be LOCAL: West LA only please!