Hello friends and enemies. I'm ready to stop pretending I don't want to be the best subby boy for the love of my life. I want to meet online and go slowish so we can cultivate an eventual in-person relationship that can lead to marriage and monogamy; with one woman who can have a normal relationship with me most of the time. However, I also want to have a fun active sex life that includes everything from vanilla stuff, to me being the dominant man, to being a complete sub.

In my normal life:

I work in healthcare. I don't want kids. I live in the (San Francisco) South Bay, I love to lift weights, cook a ton of food, spend time with my family, play video games, try new weird stuff. I'm someone who will go on an adventure one day or week, and then sit on my couch the whole weekend. I want to volunteer at my local community garden more, and I want to try at home gardening. I want to travel a little more and listen to new music I've never heard. I want a full life lived with people I love and care about. I have the most amazing friends and yet, I don't know if I want to live in the bay anymore. I'm goofy, and weird, and shy most of the time. I love to cuddle and listening to the rain. I love spicy food but will start to sweat if I eat more thank half a jalapeno in a full meal. I have a million things to say about me, but I want to hear more about you.

But first:

I'm 5'9", fairly handsome, and pretty athletic if you don't mind me bragging (see weight lifting above; also up for hikes, runs, yoga, and you walking me like a dog around the house), white, dirty blonde short hair, and blue eyes. I can grow facial scruff pretty well, but by no means can I grow a full beard. I can grow a decent soul patch and have really great chest/torso hair IMHO. Penis is average. Legs are pretty big, and a cute little bubble butt too.

I'd like to date someone who is mostly similar to me and likes to do a lot of similar things. At the same time, I'm not insecure about you being your own person and living your own life. You can do your own thing: have lots of friends, have male friends, and make more than me in work, and you can tell me how to dress (I want to be a sub remember?), and you can invite me into as much of it as you want. Someone with a good sense of humor would do really well with me since I'm not very funny but like to joke around a lot; I guess someone who is patient would also help with that. I'm not going to reject you if you're short, I actually prefer petite women. But, I'll also date someone up to an inch taller than me because I posses no fear beyond animals with greater biting force than me. I'm into any color of woman. I want someone who is ok with me being an atheist, left-wing in politics, and plant-based. I also want someone who is at least close to me in fitness. And, I need someone who wants to be mature when we need to whenever we need to solve a problem and support each other, communication is KEY. I want to be there for me partner, girlfriend, wife, and future ex-wife (jk about this last one). And, I want her to be there for me.

Sexy time:

I like vanilla sex and want to continue having it. In all of my relationships, having a standard sex life has been really enjoyable and I want to continue engaging in that. I want to be able to be on a trip and NOT say "Oh no, we forgot the candles to drip hot wax on me! Guess we can't have sex..."

With that, I know that I'll want to be dominant in that normal sex life and have be in a dom position some times. I like the times I've been able to stand in front of my partner, push her gently into a wall, and let her feel my presence before I carry her off to bed over my shoulder. I want to be on top some times and I want to take my wife from the back while I pull her hair.

And finally, I desperately want to be a sub. I'm fairly new to it but just having a woman make me call her Mistress over text has made me start to get erections in public spaces. The thought of being spanked by my college crush is something I've thought about more times that I want to admit. I want to be commanded, humiliated, violated, used, abused, and left in a pile on the floor only for you to return and smush my face in whatever you decide. Pegging, sissy dress-up with makeup, face-fucking, face sitting, role-play, light impact, being seduced, being hypnotized, we can discuss public stuff, toy control, foot massages, servicing, and more.

Please discuss things with me more if you're at all interested. We can discuss anything from normal relation type stuff to fooling around via the horizontal tango. I can have a short term relationship if you would like, too, but don't be surprised if I fall in love with you if you give me the ol' hawk tua. Like I said, I'm ready to spend time talking to get to know someone special, meet in person, and we can even date like normal people.

TLDR: Hopeless romantic man, who definitely looks like Huge Jackman, wants to have a healthy romantic relationship and fun variable sex life.