To the whom it may concern,

If you’re reading this, the post is current, and I’m available to chat.

I'm searching for my life partner...

Let’s get to the heart of it: We probably have a good sense of why we’re both here, but I want to be crystal clear about what I’m looking for. I’m not here to find someone who just tolerates my needs—I’m looking for someone who shares them. I want a partner who is as invested in my desires as I am in theirs.

I’m searching for a long-term monogamous relationship. The relationship will begin online, but the goal is for us to build enough trust that we eventually transition to an in-person dynamic. It’s important that we live in the same general region.

We don’t need to be identical in every way, but it would be great if we shared a few common hobbies or interests. I’m a blend of sweet and intense: the kind of guy who wants to care for you and spend all of his time with you, but also the darker side of me that will push your boundaries and make you feel helpless, in a way that keeps you coming back for more. I want you to be as much mine as I will be yours.

The dynamic: Let’s talk about the specific kinks and needs that will shape this relationship. I’m very clear on what I’m looking for in a physical and emotional connection, and I want to find someone who fits with those needs. I’m seeking someone who can fully submit to me during intense sessions, or at least resist as long as they can before giving in. The intensity of these sessions will always be guided by your comfort level and boundaries.

As we spend more time together, I’ll gradually take more control over different aspects of our dynamic, but only in ways that feel safe and right for both of us. Trust will be key here, and it will take time to build that level of security. I’ll always be mindful of your well-being, inside and outside of our sessions. When we’re not having a full session, I’ll still engage with you—teasing, giving gentle attention, and making sure you feel cared for. But when it comes to fulfilling your needs outside of our more intense moments, it will be on my terms.

Your desires are just as important as mine, but I’ll be the one to decide when and how they’re met. I will never push you beyond your limits, but I will test those boundaries, always aiming to bring you to the edge. I take no pleasure in a dynamic where you’re not enjoying yourself, but I do want you to hate how much you love the push and pull between us.

Ownership and responsibility: I want you to be mine, and with that comes my full ownership of our connection and the responsibility to care for you. I’ll ensure we build a strong, trusting foundation, and I expect you to be fully invested in that process.

Physical attraction: I do have specific preferences when it comes to physical appearance. It’s simply how I’m wired, and there’s no point pretending otherwise. If you don’t meet my preferences but are still interested in exploring other aspects of this dynamic, I’m open to talking. But I will be honest if I don’t feel a connection on that level. You should be attracted to me too, after all—you deserve your dream guy too.

If you feel that we might be a good fit, let’s start the conversation. But if we’re not on the same page, I’ll be upfront about that too. We all deserve a partner who checks all the boxes of what we’re looking for.

..are you her?