A service top into CGL, a service submissive daddy, or anyone interested in learning a6this rare kink, welcome to the DMs! I'm a soft dominant little and yes, it is a rare kink. No I'm not a brat, no I'm not just "looking to be over powered", no your dick pic won't make me a submissive, and no I'm not a switch. We do exist. Now that that's out of the way...
I'm a soft dominant little. In reality the closest irl situation that people understand easiest is the "a people pleaser dad loves his little girl so much he's jumping through hoops, protecting, spoiling and not saying 'no' to anything and not setting limits because his baby girl will always be daddy's princess" -relationship dynamic that's a terrible way to raise a child but very appealing and even healing in certain situations in a relationship which involves adults only and is made possible through play pretend.
I'll tell about my personal needs and expectations from the D/S relationship later on in this post.
I'm a 20 year old girl which can be categorised as "nerdy", with the glasses and love for Harry Potter series and a not so fun past which I'm using to heal with through being little. So, not being allowed to be little and being able to sit a few hours a week surrounded by stuffies and playing with toys would be negatively affect my life and health. I'm on a self awareness journey at the moment and I get some of my biggest "aha, so THAT'S what's going on!"'s in my little space too. Despite me being a little I'm actually pretty mature for my age according to people around me. A long term relationship with the goal of marriage would be ideal. I use a lot of my free time studying stuff and I've learnt some stuff to a point where I'm now more emotionally mature than my own parents and I'm definitely not a big risk taker. I know I want to have a family and that I want to get married and my own needs pretty well, the biggest challenge is to verbalise them. At the moment I'm studying to become a physics teacher in university and working as a security guard. I partially own my own apartment which can fit me and someone else nicely at the moment.
Things I want to be loved for is: 🧚♀️My ideas and creativity (in other words, you don't have to come up with anything if you like) 🧚My needs (or in other words, making you feel needed and wanted) 🧚♂️ My childlike innocence I've managed to preserve from the unkind world childlike wonder (in other words, I'm a little? You get to play and care without having to actually get any 24/7 parenting responsibilities? I don't know I'm yet to see what value people find in innocence of an adult, I'm yet to meet nothing but rejection on that category) 🧚♂️ My wisdom/thoughts (iow, we can have very interesting and deep conversations and my brain never shuts up so I can do a lot of mental work and labour at ease) 🧚 Parts of my body I like/I'm insecure about, like I like my long brown hair, my bit crooked teeth that look like baby vampire fangs when smiling, thin wrists and ankles, and I want to be loved for things I don't like which are my soft belly, too big & heavy boobs and too narrow hips. 🧚♀️My femininity (iow, I'll try my best to give you a chance to be in your "divine masculine protector" -energy)
My absolute ideal person I think I'll never come across anywhere but fiction would be a man who's 🔳 A mix of slenderman and a goth/emo guy with long hair, meaning tall (almost or over 180 cm or 6 foot), thin/lanky and spooky 'n' cute like Halloween 👻🕸️🕷️🎃 🔲 Soft spoken and good verbal conflict resolution skills practicing self awareness and good open communication, like a dog that's ready to protect their owner but being a gentle sweetheart to her 🐶💕 🔳 Is my age, wants to be a husband, a father and a daddy and prioritizes the future family and a quiet calm life somewhere nice and hopefully warm 🏡🌅 🔲 Finds healing in serving, pleasing, giving up control/decision making, caretaking, play pretending, taking off responsibility and following rules and worshipping in BDSM context 🖤⛓️🍼💖🦄 🔳 Loves to listen to me talking and being nerdy about things such as gemstones, the world, harry potter ect and will help me grow, heal and give me cuddles 💎🗨️🫂
REALISTICALLY, I won't find all that in someone who's also compatible so the requirements for a relationship is:
🖤 Be 15 cm or more taller than me (I'm sorry I developed the attraction/kink for people taller than me when I was young and got abused by a short man and rescued by a tall one when I was a kid so yeahhh I'm sorry I know men say women shouldn't care about height!) 🖤 Be into my most of my kinks not be into my limits to a point where you can't live without them 🖤 Be respectful 🖤 Be compatible enough with me as I am
To be honest, I don't know how to find what I'm looking for. I haven't found labels which indicate the specific relationship I'm looking for but the closest I've gotten to is submissive caregiver or a service top. The partner would be called "daddy" by me anyways no matter what labels they use for themselves. The D/S relationship would for an example include things:
🌷 Be part time, not 24/7 domlittle/subdaddy relationship, there could be a 24/7 element of a dynamic somewhere but not involving being a little 🌸 The daddy would have his own rules he'd have to follow, and sometimes if he breaks them and I don't feel like punishing him myself he'd punish himself (inspired by house elfs in Harry potter 🤭) 💮 Service things would involve things like cooking, making sure my needs are met (I forget to eat regularly since I can't feel hunger for an example), cleaning certain things and helping with simple things such as untangling a necklace for me. And of course playing with me. 🌸 It wouldn't be sexual by itself, the dynamic, even though sex isn't forbidden but it's more of a "when the little feels like doing something" thing 🌷 Daddy would be happy and enthusiastic about things and maybe even begging for things such as chastity or getting wacked with a mermaid Barbie on the balls, any "I hate being in chastity cage" or other displays of dissatisfaction would result into that thing just being removed because I don't want to force someone to do something they genuinely don't like and I want to know that they like something instead of playing along with the "I say I hate it but I actually like it" game. Just admit you like it if you actually like it. 🌸 I would have my own rules (mostly to keep up a healthy routine) and it'd also be daddy's responsibility to make sure I'm following them. I of course as a princess wouldn't get punished but if I behaved good for long enough times I'd get a reward. 💮 Open communication, of course, self awareness and things like that are present
It'd definitely have more of a caregiver with elements of submissive/serving rather than more traditional submissive than caregiving.
All soft and hard limits and kinks are available by asking, but before sliding into DM's, if watersports, abdl, chastity cages and period blood are something you're terribly afraid of we might not work out and also:
I WON'T do the following: Pegging, NO BIG AGE GAPS, no anal of any kind especially to you (this specific limit could change in the future), feminizing, humiliating, forcing of any kind and ABSOLUTELY NO to needle play or something where skin is broken/risk of infection!
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