Greetings, I'm Theo. That's not my real name, but it's what my friends call me. For privacy, I will share my photo and my name in our first messages! I apologize in advance for the lengthy post, I'm a writer and a self published author so it's hard for me to be succinct when it's about a topic I like.

About me:

6'1, white male. I am a big guy. I'm losing weight (down over 25 lbs so far) but I'm still a chonker! I'm located in Northeast TN. I'm poly and partnered. I am a massive nerd. I'm talking video games, dnd, the whole nine. I immensely enjoy nerd culture in general, and learning about other people's passions. One of my biggest hobbies (and my only source of income) is my writing, and I actually run D&D games for a living! Most of my work is for my dnd campaigns, but I write horror, fantasy, and adult smutty fiction. I've teen told I'm quite good!

I love animals, and one of my top ten desires is to be able to hug a bear without getting mauled to death. I don't know how that would happen, but I want it to. I'd also pet a moose or a hippo if they also both weren't incredibly dangerous land animals. I'm an animal lover, but I'm not an idiot.

I've been called funny quite a bit, and I love to make people laugh. I'm a bit of a people pleaser, but I definitely stick up for myself. I will never force anyone to do anything they don't want to do, and I won't ever send unsolicited inappropriate images.

Consent is extremely important to me, and I always ask, especially when getting to know someone, before touching them or asking anything risque.

Note: I am atheist, and a leftist. Politics are important to me but don't have to be to you.

What I'm looking for:

So for ease of access, I will be posting this in multiple subreddits. So this section will include kinks, but will be labeled so you can easily bypass them.

I am not picky with physical appearance at all, or age (18 ) for that matter. What matters is how we get along!

I want someone who is searching for friends, companionship, that hopefully leads to more. I try not to rush into real relationships, as it hasn't worked out in the past. Preferably you will be local, but I am ok with Online as long as we have plans to close the gap at some point, especially if we visit occasionally. I do have a high sex drive, but thankfully, due to the nature of poly relationships, you don't have to have a high drive!

Hopefully you are nerdy, nice, genuine, and affectionate. You appreciate kind words and gestures, and reciprocate touch. I want to find my person, someone I can call my genuinely best friend who is always in my corner, and I always have their back too. I value kindness and empathy to a large degree.

Please be good at communication, and reciprocate the energy that you receive in messages and in person. I'm not asking for novels or 24/7 texting, but I like to send a good morning/ good night text and see how people are doing generally speaking. Constant one word answers and no effort, while having me carry the entire conversation gets old after a while.

I'm disabled, and I don't make a ton of money, but I make enough to make due. I don't make much, but fortunately I have a lot of disposable income because I have very few bills. I'm undecided on children, but I'm open to it under the right circumstances.

I am a switch. That means I like being both dominant and submissive. This isn't bdsm personals so I won't elaborate on that here.

If you've read this far, by all means, send me a message! I'm open to chatting to see if we click! :)

My kinks

So first of all, I am a switch. I have a lot of experience being a dom, but I would love to explore my submissive side. I won't go into all of my interests here, but I can do some overview on each role. My general kinks (regardless of role) are breeding, free use, power dynamics (I'm a little green here, but willing to learn), and overt interest. (Asking politely or being told directly your interest in sex.)

Dom: I have the most experience as a dom, particularly a pleasure dom. What being a pleasure dom means to me, is that I take the kinks of my partner and make them my own. DD/LG? I've done that before, same with cg/l. I've also been a hard dom briefly, but I much prefer the style of a softer dom. This includes things like going down, praise, reassurance, gentle touch, teasing, orgasm control (forced/edge), and others.

I enjoy pleasing my partner, and making sure they are having a very good time. If you're having a great time, I'm having an amazing time. I can go into details on how I do this, but I'll leave it up to you to ask for that. As for being a hard dom, I've done it before, but I'd need to educate myself on how to do it safely before we play under that capacity. I'm willing and interested to do so, so bonus points if you are helpful and willing to help me learn about it!

Sub:

I don't have a ton of experience as a sub, but I really enjoyed it when I have done it. I'm interested in gentle/soft fdom, especially mommy dom, but it isn't a requirement by any means. I love praise, being told what to do, free use, and being shared. I probably have a lot more to add to this list as I discover them, but that's the gist!

Limits:

I have very few limits, but they are watersports (not on me), scat (at all), anything illegal, no actual damage or anything permanent. I've not experimented with pain, and would have to really trust you to do so.

If you've read this far, please, send me a message! I am open to all (female) adults to see if we click.