I'm 5'11", white, 80kg (probably best described as partway between slim & athletic), straight dark blonde hair, clean shaven, well-kept, non-smoking, and healthy. Look a few years younger than my age. I'm a feminist and I believe it provides a fantastic foundation of trust and communication, which then sets a beautiful contrast with this kink. I like to be kind and caring, multiple women have described me as 'sweet'.

My style is fundamentally attentive and affectionate - I adore focussing a lot of thought and effort onto you and your mind, so I can really understand what makes you tick, and adapt accordingly to what you want/need, whether or not you've figured it out yourself yet. However, force and aggression can be an integral part of that as the mood suits, when (or indeed if) you're ready to enjoy the raw, heart-pounding thrill of me flipping into being genuinely fearsome & brutal. Some of my more favoured scenarios include cnc, freeuse, and obedience games, but adaptation beyond those comes very naturally too. I'm interested in enjoying needle play with the right, established partner.

Outside of kink I enjoy a peaceful, intellectual life. I am a professional with a good income, I enjoy archery, driving, and I'm learning to create music. You are much more likely to find me in a restaurant or café, than a pub or nightclub.

My ideal match is an intelligent, witty, and imaginative sub looking to build a long-term monogamous relationship, as I would like to devote my time that you deserve. A conventional romantic partnership outside the bedroom, and occasionally inside it too, would be essential (this doesn't rule out non-bedroom kink, if that's one of the things for you). Physical attraction will be a factor, but secondary to our mental & emotional compatibility. I would prefer to verify each other early in our communication, and move semi-quickly to building our trust in safe, public settings like dinner dates, rather than purely online. Therefore location somewhere between London & the East Midlands would work best, but the right connection would be worth going further afield for.

However, life is not always ideal, so I'm also flexible for a longer distance connection, as well as shorter-term fun encounters, as long as we get on well (the right connection is worth extra effort after all).

Limits: full-time brat dynamic (light brattiness is OK), cgl, online-only, toilet-related, involving others

If all of this feels like a green flag to you, perhaps we should discuss further. ❤️