Hello! I’m a 38M looking for a long term monogamous relationship with eventual goals of marriage and starting a family. I live in SC, but will shortly be moving into my new home in NC. I am a dominant leaning switch looking for a sub or sub leaning switch. I am happy to start things online and ok with a LDR. I am a demisexual, so building the personal connection first is quite important to me. I’m 5’7” and 270lbs.

A little about me: I’m a software developer, and more than willing to geek out on my different subjects. I have a stable career, but I work to live, not live to work. No kids yet, never married. I live my life by christian principals, but am not active in any congregation (although I am open to that changing). I’m always up for trying new experiences, and my hobbies include woodworking, blacksmithing, scuba diving, and reading. I enjoy plays, movies, musicals, and more. I have 2 cats and a small dog that I adore. I enjoy spending time with my special person, be that texting through the day, or long calls late into the night. Family is very important to me, and I am always there for those I care about. I’m big on loyalty and trust. Underlying both of those things is open and honest communication. Very few things are off limits to talk about in the beginning of the relationship, and after we establish a baseline of trust, nothing is off limits. I’m basically an open book. I love to tell stories, joke around frequently, and the sarcasm and snark run strong in me.

Kink wise, I am innately a caregiver and a daddy dom. I have fulfilled that role in past relationships before I knew it even had a name - it’s just who I am. I am interested in establishing some type of D/s dynamic, be it ddlg, pet/handler, brat/wrangler, generic dom/sub, or some combination of the above. However, that would not happen until we build that emotional and relationship bond between us first. My view on it is that kink is the seasoning that makes the meal better, while the relationship is the steak and potatoes that sustain us. 

Most of my kinks are really driven by what makes my submissive aroused, happy, and or fulfilled. Ones I know that I enjoy (some giving, some receiving, and some both) with the right partner are ddlg, pet play, brat play, impact play, bondage, joi, water sports, diapers, praise, light degradation, remote controlled toys, and humiliation. However, there are very few things I wouldn’t be willing to try at least once. Hard limits include anything illegal, any sort of non-monogamy, permanent markings (with the exception of tattoos), and anything that draws more blood than a small bandaid can treat. And if I get to know what makes you tick well enough that I can make you blush or temporarily forget how to speak with just a whispered or texted phrase, I count that as a personal victory.

What I am looking for in a partner is someone who is looking to settle down with the right guy, 25 . I don’t care if you already have children or not, as long as you want one or more in your life. I don’t care about height, weight, race, or religion. I would like you to be drug (I don’t if you use pot, although I don’t personally) and disease free, not a heavy drinker, a non-smoker (or someone who is willing and able to quit), and likes (or at least tolerates) pets. I don’t want to be bailing you out of jail every other weekend, but recognize that people can have a … colorful … past and are capable of change.