First and foremost, I seek someone whose core principals align with my own. The fetishes, kinks and other interests don't matter if we can't agree on these important things:

• Personal growth - I can only lead if I am continually investing in myself, my learning and growth. It is my job to give my partner, friends and community the best version of myself. I expect that same commitment to personal growth in a submissive, with my guidance on areas of focus
• Chosen family - I chose the people in my life with intentionality. Mutual love, shared morals and principals, communication, common interests, good times and a commitment to improving each others lives make for a happy, drama free life with amazing people
• Community service - Ensuring that others have access to non-traditional lifestyles is important to me. I choose to spend some of my free time participating and volunteering in the local BDSM community to ensure that others have opportunities to explore, learn and find their own place in BDSM. Nothing makes me happier than seeing someone realize they have found their people and a place where they can safely be themselves
• Acceptance of others - Each person must be allowed to make their own choices and live their life in security and safety, as long as they are not harming others. No one should be imposing their views, religions or opinions on others. I support any and all efforts to create those protections and safety for people regardless of their background, race, sexuality or lifestyle
• Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) - Researching, learning, understanding and discussing the risks. Practicing or seeking mentorship where appropriate. Only then do I engage in kink activities consensually
• Committed long term relationship based on power/authority exchange - I find happiness in equal but opposite relationships, where we each can embed ourselves in the parts of life we enjoy. I like leading by example, making decisions, creating a place of safety, controlling/using my sub and pushing us to explore new things vanilla or kinky. You should find happiness in obedience, the safety of rules/rituals/protocols, providing service and being used for my enjoyment. Your needs before mine. My wants before yours.

Now the fun parts!

• 20 years of in-person experience that includes power exchanges, M/s dynamics, making toys and furniture, teaching classes, volunteering at dungeons, participating in communities, attending play parties and much more
• I enjoy a life that blends strict rules and training, playful banter, sadism, ownership, praise, punishment, affection and everyday vanilla elements into my relationship. Life must be a balance for it to be satisfying and for relationships to be enduring
• Outside of kink I have a solid career and a whole list of non-kinky interests like board games, cooking, house improvement projects, hiking, working out, reading, travel and video games
• Kinks and fetishes are a very long list, so just some highlights - you do not need to be into all of these things: 24/7, Affectionate Cruelty, Anal Play/Toys/Sex, Appearance Control, Bagging, Begging, Bathroom Control, Behavior Modification, Bondage, Breast Bondage/Torture, Breath Play, Bruises, Caging/Confinement, Chastity, Collar & Leash, Consensual Nonconsent, Corset Traning, Cuckquean, Degradation, Dehumanization, Discipline, Dollification, Domestic Service, Edge Play, Electrical Play, Emotional Sadism, Encasement, Enemas, Eye Contact Restrictions, Face Slapping, Fear Play, Feminization, Flogging, Free use, Gags, High Protocol, Hoods, Humiliation, Impact Play, Knives, Latex, Leather, Mind Fucks, Mummification, Needle Play, Objectification, Obedience Training, Orgasm Control/Denial, Piercings, Plastic Wrap, Predicaments, Primal, Pussy Pumping, Rope/Rigging, Sensory Deprivation, Somnophilipa, Spanking, Speech Restrictions, Suspensions, Tears/Crying, Vacuum Beds, Watersports, Whips
• Your experience level does not matter - I am happy to train you into perfect property. The most important part is aligning on lifestyle and goals

You can learn more about me on my profile where I also have pictures of myself and kinky toys/projects. I'm also happy to vet, provide references and answer any questions you might have.

I look forward to your chat request and hope you will share what resonated with you the most.

Damon