Trying this out because the likelihood of me finding what I'm looking for through "traditional" means is just not good. I'll try to format this as best I can but I'm on mobile so bear with me please.

I'm 27, bi, male (although I'm not a fan of labeling these things in myself - I just exist), lived in multiple countries, speak multiple languages, currently residing in Denver. I'm a chemical engineer. I'm also a little autistic/adhd (an engineer afterall) and I have a very sweet and well-behaved Husky.

What I'm looking for:

I'm looking for something that can eventually turn into a long-term/life partner relationship. I've dated non-monogamously for the last 10yrs and I've learned that what I value from it is the freedom aspect to enjoy life's little moments moreso than anything else. Because of that, my ideal dynamic would primarily be just us but with room for occasionally being involved with other people, be it together or individually. But I want our relationship to be our priority and for us to foster a deep connection with each other. "Monogamish" I guess?

I should add: I lean to the left. I voted for Bernie in the 2016 primaries so that should tell you where I stand on things politically.

I'd say I'm a switch that prefers leaning sub. However, I do have more experience being a dom because that has just been what previous partners have wanted. I'd like to be able to take a more submissive role and I'm open to dynamics that stretch outside of the bedroom. To do that, I'll need to both trust and respect you as my equal or more. I don't mean that in a misogynistic or narcissistic way, I say that as a man that raised himself through 20yrs of daily physical and emotional abuse and put himself through graduate school to be where he is now.

And with that, I'd like someone that understands that even though most of my wounds have healed, the scars remain. I don't need you to be my therapist, I have one and she's amazing, but I do need you to be empathetic, understanding, and be a person with whom I may navigate certain issues surrounding attachment in a healthy way.

What do I look like:

I'm brown, tall, muscular, and well tatted. I've also got long, black, curly hair which I really like and think it makes me look more approachable. It also fits my inner soft boy vibes a lot better. I'd say overall I'm an attractive man, I get hit on at bars, cat-called while walking my dog, the whole 9-yards. I'm not a huge fan of the attention, I don't like being perceived in general most of the time, but especially when people get in my personal space. I've had people (typically women) grope me at bars and stuff and that just does not fly, no one should be touching anyone without their explicit consent. I'll say the little things like complimenting my hair or smile does feel nice though.

What do you look like:

I don't really have a specific preference, I think beauty and attraction is very subjective and there are no specific traits that makes someone attractive/unattractive. My criteria is that you have a physical hobby/activity you ENJOY that keeps you healthy and in shape. I love resistance training (and would love if you do too) and am starting to get into muay thai just since I've already got a good build (6'3" 205lbs ~15�), I figure I might as well use it for something other just being strong and muscly lol. You don't have to enjoy what I enjoy, but you need to have something that keeps you metabolically healthy. I don't mind if you're slightly younger than me but my preferred range would my 27-45. If you're not in that range, you're welcome to still message me if you think everything else aligns well! :)

Kink?

The list of things I'm into/open to is very long. Depending on how emotionally intimate our connection is, there is little I wouldn't be willing to at least try. I love to please and get satisfaction from knowing my partner is satisfied and enjoying themselves. My hard limits include anything illegal, degradation/humiliation (teasing is fine - I need to feel loved and respected by my partner), blood/cutting, invoking/receiving large amounts of pain, cucking, and things that could be considered as "highly extreme". Kinda vague, and I don't judge, so if you have things that are a "must have" let me know what they are early on so we can know if this is would work before either of us are heavily invested.

If you've read this far and think we'd make a good match, send me a message! I've put time and thought into writing this post so you should do the same for your message 🫶🏾 Happy to verify and exchange pics/call/videocall after we've talked for a bit and have built some rapport :)