Could this be the place to find an actual, lasting dynamic?
Who am I:Â I'm a 30 year old male, living in Northampton and working in London. I have a good white collar career, own my home, with no kids. I keep myself physically fit, enjoy weightlifting and hit the gym most mornings. 5'9", White, With a stocky, muscular build. Personality wise, I'm a little geeky, and my despite having a more masculine presentation my sexuality is queer.
What I'm Looking For:Â A long term sexual partner, either in the form of a FWB, or a relationship. Open to it just being fun or an emotional connection. Must have compatible kinks. Must be willing to share a SFW face picture fairly early into the discussion, and confirm they are that person, (and of course I will do the same).
My Kinks:Â My primary interest is domination and submission. My kinks all primarily boil down to forms of power exchange. I have a decade's worth of BDSM experience and consider myself a calm, emotionally mature dominant, respectful of my partners needs and limits.
For me a dom/sub pairing is more of an emotional state, a dynamic, than a list of kinks. It can be subtle as well as involving all the toys. Sometimes a look or a firm hand can be as powerful as 100 feet of rope. Whether with one off partners or long term submissives, I am usually looking to explore and experience the intense emotional headspace of a dom/sub dynamic. I prefer partners who are eager for the opportunity to submit rather than resistant. I enjoy giving discipline, love restraints, edging my partner, orgasm denial, and cnc play. I have a strong domestication and TPE kink, and enjoy extending aspects of submission outside of the bedroom with willing partners.
I enjoy taking on one of two roles when playing with a partner. Either I am a caring "Daddy Dominant", still controlling the scene but with a focus on praise, edging, discipline/punishments, and encouraging service from the submissive. Or I play the role of the rough, degrading dominant, with a focus on pain, rough sex, degradation and a more primal domination style. I'm more naturally inclined towards the first style, but when the moment (or partner preference) takes me, the second form of D/S play can also be enjoyable.
My more exotic kinks - petplay, ageplay, manhandling and rough sex (I don't lift all these weights to not throw you around if you want me to), blindfolds/sensory deprivation, breeding. While my key dynamic revolves around exchange of power and service, if I am with a masochist, I enjoy more serious sadistic pain sessions, marking, caning, etc.
Gender Preference:Â I am open to cis-female, cis-male, trans and gender non conforming partners. I think of my sexual preference as less on a male-female spectrum and more in terms of Dominant vs Submissive. However I'm not interested in very masculine presenting bodies.
Personality Preference:Â Age 18-35. Able to handle situations with maturity, and generally easy going and unlikely to cause drama. Eager to build an emotional connection with someone. Thoughtful and likes to have deep conversations about ideas. Ideally enjoys art, literature/culture, but personality fit is the most important.
Kinks I Don't Get On Well With: Brats - Sorry Brats, but my life is busy enough without wanting to deal with drama in my sexual fun, if anything my ideal is the exact opposite, an eager submissive.
Scat -Â Obvious reasons*.*
Well that's me. Experienced emotionally mature 30 year old dominant, seeks his eager submissive with power exchange fantasies. Hope I find you!
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