I’ve tried vanilla dating, I’ve tried dating kinky people who were almost a good match (but not quite). At this point I’ve decided I should look for someone who checks all the boxes.

A little about me: I enjoy travel (road trips to a fun place within a few hours of the house, or international, I’ve been to lots of amazing places and would like someone to join while I add more to the list), reading, cooking, fitness/being active, spending time with my pets (dogs & cat). I’m 36, have a steady job- I make enough that I’m comfortable and own my own home and plan to retire at 39 from my current career to start a second career either full or part time. Physically, I’m white, just over 6’ with a muscular frame (visible abs, not a dad bod- not to body shame just trying to provide an accurate visual), somewhat tattooed, and usually have a beard or some form of facial hair. Conventionally attractive and wanting the same. We can exchange SFW pictures if it gets to that point.

I am looking for a woman who is interested in building a long term relationship, mostly vanilla to the outside world and kinky in private. Someone to travel with, enjoy day to day activities, spend time with friends, dinner/drinks, to be the object of my affection and create a solid relationship outside of anything kinky. I’ve done casual and that’s fine but I’m looking for long term ideally as I feel like kink in general just works best that way. You can have a career or work part time, either is fine with me as long as you’re happy. You don’t have to be local to me right this second, but please be open to relocation if you’re not as this is definitely only something that works in person. I have plenty of room for someone to move in when the timing is right. I don’t want to control your social or professional life and would encourage you to maintain healthy relationships with friends and family as those are important to me as well. I want a dynamic that is very kink oriented and deals with power imbalance but I absolutely have to stress that it is not from a place of misogyny or adherence to “traditional gender roles”- it’s a kink and does not apply to my views on women in general. While I am looking for a sub/slave, they will at the end of the day still be my partner. If they aren’t feeling well I won’t complain about them not being able to “serve”, and more than likely they’ll end up being ordered to bed while I make them soup… I don’t have kids, don’t have plans for them, and would likely work best with someone else who is currently and wants to stay child-free.

What I’m looking for in terms of physical appearance and kink: I’d like someone who takes care of themselves as being physically healthy is going to fit best with my interests and lifestyle, so being somewhat fit is big for me (if you’re not a collegiate athlete or a bikini model that’s fine, I actually have a gym at my house and if physical fitness is something you want help with it can be included in the dynamic). I don’t have a “type” when it comes to physical looks, I can appreciate a tan blond cheerleader type just as much as a tattooed/pierced alternative girl with pale skin and dark hair. Beauty is beauty as far as I’m concerned.

As for kinks, I would like someone who is interested in free use (hence the in person importance), cuckqueaning and/or dating other women together, preferably both. I also enjoy deepthroat and anal/anal training, light to heavy bondage, impact, and much more that can be discussed in depth later. I am also very open to any and all kinks someone else brings to the dynamic, it’s important to me that my partner is fulfilled, but I will say I am not looking for a partner into age regression. I think a mix of a sub/slave might be the best description of what I’m looking for- everything else involving kinks is just an ongoing conversation to be revisited throughout the relationship. Good kink, and good sex, isn’t a rigid set of one time rules decided on and never mentioned again. I like light hearted sessions involving trying new things and discussing them, as well as more intense scenes. I would say I am on a spectrum between a pleasure Dom to someone who can absolutely enjoy rougher more sadistic kinks, and will at times absolutely just use you for my pleasure (knowing you like it just as much as I do). I have no issue being straightforward with what I want, when I want. This would be the dynamic behind closed doors at the very least, and how much it extended beyond the bedroom would be a topic for discussion and while I would not interfere with anyone’s professional life, outside of that most things kinky would be up to my discretion as to when and how they happened. In terms of cuckqueaning, I’d like someone who is as interested in me seeing other people as I am, whether that’s with you completely uninvolved, finding other partners for me, cleaning up after dates, watching, or actively participating. Preferably a combination of all of those things, but I’m open to specifics with the right person.

If you’ve read this novel I’ve written and are interested, contact me and we can get into more details. This all may sound a bit specific but ideally to the person I’m looking for it sounds like the perfect situation.