This may be a little bit of a long shot, but I will give it a go ...
So, I guess I am looking for what could best be described as a Dominant female friend or pen pal.
I am going to be completely honest, and I suspect that may turn some people off, but it's the only way to truly find what we need, right?
I'm married and have been - mostly happily - for over 20 years. I love my wife dearly and we are best friends, but we aren't really compatible sexually and haven't engaged in sex for a couple of years.
A few years ago we tried out BDSM and TPE where I was the Dom. It was fun and hot, but it didn't last long term for a couple of reasons, a big one of which was that I grew to understand that I was sexually submissive. My wife has made it clear that she has no interest in being the Domme, or really in sex with me at all - and that is okay.
However, I do still have these cravings to submit to a powerful woman. I would love to find a partner who was patient and willing to be a friend where we get to know each other. But, when she needed to "get her Domme on" or when I needed to feel submissive, we could slip into those roles.
I can perform tasks for this mythical Mistress and provide written, photo, and video proof of my devotion and worship.
I realize in my heart that this is cheating on my wife and that grieves me, but if my partner has this understanding going in, and we place limits on our relationship to be transactional, maybe it would be okay?
We would both have to get fulfillment out of it, of course. And I am not proposing or open to any financial exchange.
Just maybe two people can get some mutual gratification as both friends and sub/Mistress.
That's my pitch. Please be gentle.
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