I'm a woman who has posted as a sub here a few times before. I'm done with this now because of personal reasons but also because I have no trust in this anymore.
I'm not saying there aren't good people in this subreddit, but for every male dom who seems to have knowledge about what bdsm is, there are three who don't know shit about being a good dom and are just abusers, trying to get their fair share of exploiting people (narcissists, sociopaths, etc).
Red flags in doms (and I am talking about a longer online relationship here, which they all pretend to want):
Pushing too fast before there's trust.
Ignoring boundaries.
Hot/cold treatment (intermittent reinforcement)
Silent treatment
Lovebombing
Trying to dom before there's an agreement
No aftercare (yes, even online this must be done)
Not interested in who you are as a person
Agressive if things don't go how they want
No safe word
Guilt you into doing something
Lying
I'm sure there's more.
At the same time, doms should be wary of subs who just want a kink dispenser or sub accounts who are just here for the money.
Please trust your gut feeling.
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