Hi! I’m Emily, I’m 32 and live in the central east part of Illinois. I have quite a bit of experience with long distance relationships and as a Midwesterner, I love a good road trip, so I am open to people pretty much anywhere in the continental US. I’m open to online only if that’s how it works out, but I’m also down to travel and meet up with the right person.

I’ve been married almost 14 years and we have been nonmonogamous/poly for the majority of that time(started out ENM and then switched to poly after about a year). We date separately. I'm looking for something long-term because I am someone who tends to get attached and don’t just jump from relationship to relationship. The two most important things I’m looking for though are consistency and communication. Almost everything else is negotiable.

I’m gonna do the rest of this in list form because that is the best way to do it without turning this post into a novel.

About me:

• 5’2”, BBW, long dark blond/light brown hair, blue eyes, glasses

• I identify as a little. Willing and able to go more into detail what that means to me if we chat, but as a broad overview I don't consider myself an age-player or experience traditional regression, I tend to explain it as just having a deeper connection to the child-like side of myself than the average person. It also goes beyond a kink thing for me, it's part of my personality and not something that I can really compartmentalize away. It's more apparent at some times more than others, but it never really goes away completely.

• I love to cook a wide variety of food and feeding people is one of my favorite ways to show love

• Horror movies are my jam even though I am a big baby when it comes to gore and will often end up watching some scenes through my fingers or over the top of the blanket I’m shielding my face with

• I’m a gamer. Mostly cozy games because I use it as a way to de-stress

• I’m a big football fan. Specifically cheer for the Pittsburgh Steelers.

• Cat person, with two cats who I consider my babies. But I don’t dislike dogs either

• As far left politically as you can possibly imagine

• 420 friendly, very occasional drinker but no problem with people who drink more often

• Since this is a BDSM sub, kink-wise I am into DD/lg, D/s, impact play, praise, light degradation and bondage. There are definitely more but those are the big ones.

Who I’m looking for:

• A man between the ages of 30-45ish(the lower end of that range is more firm than the upper end)

• No specific physical must haves, it’s more about personality for me, but if you have facial hair you get bonus points, and you get even more if it’s well-maintained

• Someone who preferably has some experience being a Daddy Dom. Obviously every dynamic is different and finding what works for us will take time, but I would like a potential partner to who have at least some idea of what they're looking for out of this.

• Not a requirement by any means but I would love to find somebody who wanted to game with me, I play a lot of cozy games that support multiplayer like Minecraft and Stardew Valley so more bonus points if you would be open to playing with me

• Someone who is not conservative politically. There are some things I will agree to disagree on, but I will never click with someone who feels that human rights are debatable

• Someone who is poly or can at least handle the fact that I'm poly. My other relationships are separate and while obviously there might be some compromise that is necessary depending on what you are looking for, there are not any up front limitations that you need to be concerned about.

• Someone who has free time to commit to a relationship. Obviously I’m married and have other IRL commitments so I don’t expect 24/7 constant communication but I do want regular daily or at least every other day conversations. In the beginning this will probably be mostly text/chat because that is my comfort level but eventually I am open to phone/video calls as well

If that second list describes you and you’re interested in the first list, please DM me and tell me a bit about yourself! I’m looking forward to hearing from you!