Tired of 'MisterDomlyDoms' that talk a good game but have zero practical experience, and are clueless when it comes to negotiation, RACK/SSC play, and aftercare? Tired of fuckbois with nothing but a dick pic on their profile, obviously wanting nothing more than to get their dick wet after watching 50 shades?

Welcome.

I'll cut to the chase. I've been around a good long while, and have well over a decade of experience in all manner of BDSM dynamics with an extensive menu of kinky play and huge toy chest to match. I have the kinky resume and verifiable repertoire to prove it.

Me: What you'll get is a recently retired military, Dom, Master, gleeful Sadist, and adventurous MF'er. Fiercely protective of those I care for. I have my shit together. I know exactly what I want and need. I've done the work in therapy for myself. I want nothing more than to see those close to me happy and successful. Looking for both fun casual impact/electric/fire/sensation play partners and rope bunnies, and a special one to be my dedicated, collared, masochistic sub and primary nesting partner to share all of this new post-army life with. Current STI results (June 2024) will also be happily provided on request. Artsy highlight: https://i.imgur.com/J28aapJ.jpg

You: Secure in yourself, sub/slave, masochist, service oriented, rope bunny, personally and professionally capable. You have hobbies and things to do that make you happy and are fun to share. Tomboy, drama free, emotionally mature. Understands what you need and want from a relationship and dynamic, and are able to communicate those needs and wants openly. You understand empowered submission, where you openly communicate with me as a teammate, and then allow me to naturally lead our dynamic and day to day life. Major bonus points for dog and outdoors lovers, knowledge of the Gorean lifestyle, and being highly intelligent (talk nerdy and STEMy to me).

Without a doubt, the sweetest submission is given by self actualized individuals.

I don't do high school bullshit like drama or ghosting. I promise to always openly communicate, no games, and if we're a good match I'll tell you without mincing words, including an offer to meet face to face in a public place to give our chemistry a shot. If we're not a good match for at least casual play, I'll thank you for your time and send you on your way.

If you're ready for something REAL, or something real fun (I love giving tastings of play you haven't experienced yet), then by all means take the necessary steps outside your comfort zone to live your best life and get in touch. Your fetlife profile link and clothed vanilla picture gets mine. Local IRL only (an exception could be made for a very special sub willing to relocate in the near future).

A dear submissive friend (she's owned by one of my close friends) recently pointed out that she'd seen my ad, and her feedback was that it could be intimidating for those newer to kink. To those unsure about responding, that's the beauty of negotiation. We talk honestly and openly about what we'd both like out of a scene/dynamic, and find ways for both of us to get what we need and want. It's collaborative, and in no way is inexperience a hindrance to a great scene or epic dynamic. Nor is finding some of my pictures scary. The connection with and reactions of my bottom are the fun part for me, whether that's beating you bloody with a barbed wire whip, or making little tingles with a bunny fur flogger. A SCENE/DYNAMIC IS ONLY EXACTLY AS INTENSE OR SOFT AS YOU NEGOTIATE FOR. With proper negotiation you should never need to utter the words "but that's too intense for me". If you're wanting something genuine, and willing to bravely explore outside your comfort zone, shoot your shot. I promise I'm friendly, until we negotiate otherwise.

Please include a bit about your kink history and experience level, your fetlife name if you're comfortable sharing it, and a clothed vanilla picture (no face necessary) with your reply. A kinklist we can look at together is even better. https://adhesivecheese.github.io/kinklist