Reddit is my way of connecting, plain and simple. I’m not the kind of guy who’s into socializing on kink-focused sites—this is just the spot that works for me. 😊

About me: I’m 33, from NY, 6 ft tall, fair-haired, fit, and driven both in career and life. I’d say I’m a bit of an affable oddball, with a sharp sense of humor and a confident, grounded approach to life. I know myself well and have a good read on others. Building a healthy, well-balanced dynamic is something I’m comfortable with, and I’m family-oriented and social, not afraid to be a bit silly. I’m a big reader, fortunate to have a wide social circle, and I’ve traveled solo all over the globe—though I never quite picked up a second language. Also, proud dad to three loaves of sourdough (and counting)!

Who I’m looking for: A woman in her early to mid-20s who’s ambitious and wants a partner to build a life that’s both rich and complex. You’re adventurous, open to new experiences (inside and outside the bedroom), and you value good communication. Fit, healthy, and passionate about something that drives you. You love long, late-night conversations and aren’t shy about your submissive side, though you’re not one to kneel for just anyone—you’re waiting for a Dom who’s right for you. When you do, it’ll be a connection that goes deeper than just physical.

Kink-wise, I’m drawn to power dynamics and control. I want to understand you deeply and use that knowledge to elevate your pleasure. A girl who’s the perfect blend of “good girl” in public and “eager slut” in private. My aim is to sculpt you into the best version of your submissive self, blending obedience and trust. Sometimes this will be sexually charged, but other times it’ll be about small gestures and rules—how you speak, how you conduct yourself, fitness, or even routines. I’m looking for that deep psychological intimacy.

What I bring is a private, one-on-one education in what it means to be a good submissive, something I’m experienced with and passionate about. Peeling back the layers to reveal and fulfill your most intense desires is something I find deeply satisfying.

I have six years of experience in this world, from fully developed D/s dynamics to casual play, obsession, romance, and everything in between. Kink is important to me but doesn’t eclipse my other passions: family, friends, creativity, the outdoors, and personal growth. I’ve had the privilege of a healthy D/s relationship, so I know what it takes to build something meaningful and lasting. I’m seeking a real connection, built on trust, with room for growth, and I won’t compromise on the values that matter to me.

My preferred dynamic is a caring yet demanding Daddy role. I enjoy pain play, free use, tasteful humiliation, eye contact, and acts of depravity. I find femininity incredibly attractive and am particularly into wardrobe control, but I want us both to feel free to be our full selves. Outside the bedroom, I like to lead, but in a soft, caring way.

If you’re in or near London and this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you. If the post is up, I’m still looking, and if you’re drawn to what I’ve described, don’t hesitate to reach out.