Hello!

I live in Kansas City, but I've spent most of my life in the NYC metro. I moved here in 2015 for a great job, and I've been here since. I live alone in a nice, modern home in the South Hyde Park area. I love living inside the city and don't see myself living far away from an urban area.

I'm handsome, slim, and in great shape. I have deep, dark eyes and dark hair peppered with greys. I keep my facial hair short and well-groomed. I don't currently have any tattoos or piercings.

I pass regular background checks due to my job so you know I'm not shady. I have no debt or unpaid bills. I'm not addicted to anything. I don't need to be taught basic adult skills like how to care for myself or my home. You won't have to pick up after me or take an overwhelming share of the mental load. I've even kept my plants alive for years! Hopefully, you've got stability and minimal drama in your life. Ideally, you're independent and have a job that you enjoy.

Politically, I'm a very passionate progressive/liberal. If you have some "conservative" values, that may not necessarily be a source of conflict. However, if you're a supporter of the modern Republican party and the MAGA movement, we are not a good fit. I'm not a religious person, but it is okay if you are as long as you can accept that I am not. Lastly, I do not have children and would prefer to date someone without children or whose kids are older and independent.

Except for a fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, I have a happy and comfortable life that doesn't want for anything. I'm capable, confident, independent, and have my life together. I want to meet someone with the intent of developing an enduring relationship. We can proceed at a pace that makes sense for us.

Some things I enjoy:

• Food: I have a very adventurous palate and love trying new foods. I avoid eating at the same restaurant twice to force myself to broaden my food experiences. If you're a vegan/vegetarian, that's fine! I'm open to the idea of some version of vegetarianism myself. I'm a competent cook, but I don't enjoy cooking. I'd prefer a partner who does. I promise that I'm great at doing the dishes and cleaning up in the kitchen.

• Fitness: My health is important, especially as I get older. I exercise regularly and also run. I'd love someone who prioritizes their health and fitness as well.

• Coffee: My COVID project was learning to appreciate coffee. My home "cafe" looks like a meth lab. I love it. I'll make you a great, fresh cup of pour-over in the morning.

• Riding: I own a modern-retro scooter (a la Vespa) and enjoy riding it around the city. Don't worry, you do not need to get on the scooter if you don't want to. I promise I ride safely and with proper gear, and never speed or get on the highway.

• Therapy: I have been seeing a therapist for about half a year, and I'm finding it invaluable. After my previous relationships failed, I felt it was important to work on myself and set up future relationships for success. I think everyone would benefit from therapy at various points in their life.

• Politics: I'm a "political junkie". I frequently read articles and listen to podcasts. I also have a great deal of interest in the Supreme Court.

• Movies: I'm a huge cinephile and enjoy going to the theater.

• Music: I love live music. I'm tolerant of most genres but gravitate towards indie, pop, and EDM. I like discovering new music, so if you want to share something you're vibing to and think I might like it, please share it with me.

• Gaming: I love to play board games with a group or my partner. I especially like games that involve some sort of social component and intuition, like The Resistance. Going out for trivia nights at bars is also one of my favorite things to do. I sometimes play single-player video games that allow me to stop at any time.

• Cleanliness: I'm probably the tidiest man you'll ever meet. I keep both my home and myself tidy. I'm something of a minimalist as well. I am not a big fan of collecting tons of trinkets and knickknacks and would not do well with a hoarder.

• Drugs: I have no dependencies or addictions whatsoever. I only drink socially and in moderation. I don't smoke anything, and I don't want to date someone who smokes a lot of anything. It smells gross and makes you taste gross. I sometimes enjoy a low-dose edible or a psychedelic. It's okay with me if you casually enjoy alcohol, marijuana, or "lighter" drugs more often than I do.

• Traveling: I'm more of a homebody, but I like road trips. I want to drive across the country in a camper someday. I enjoy hiking and "glamping", but don't love prolonged camping. I would be agreeable to traveling far and wide with a partner.

It is perfectly fine if you don't share all my interests. I want you to be your own person with your own passions. As long as we align on our core values and ideals, the rest is not all that important.

That's cool, but why is this post in "BDSMPersonals"?

I generally find that I'm most sexually compatible with kinky, submissive women who can fuel my dominant side. What kink means for us is a conversation we can have when we're ready, and that includes understanding and respecting your limits. I do want you to know that kink is not critical to the success of a relationship with me. Also, note that I am not at all interested in polyamory or ethical non-monogamy. I am not bisexual, but it is fine with me if you are. Lastly, I'm not interested in a "24/7 BDSM lifestyle" relationship. Outside the bedroom, I like a normal, healthy dynamic that isn't focused on kink.

Please be serious about meeting in person. I don't want to text endlessly. If you're interested, feel free to reach out to me via chat or Reddit mail (preferred). Please include a picture of your face with your message and describe yourself physically. It's not much different than if we were on a dating app. I will ask for a picture if you didn't include one to start. Being weird about this would lead me to believe you're not serious and I'll likely move on.

If you're long-distance (i.e. more than 2 hours away) and still interested, feel free to message me, but only if you're willing to make an actual effort to meet me in person after chatting for a bit. Ideally, you're in a position where you'll be able to relocate to Kansas City to live with me in a hypothetical future in which we're both committed to one another.

Anyway, thanks for reading all that. Hope to hear from you!