BDSM has allowed me to become the best version of myself - assertive, confident, driven, successful, but also nurturing when needed. My ability to connect and build deep intimacy with my partner is crucial to the experience. I am successful by most measures and no nonsense -- have been in the lifestyle for years, and developed my own style a blend of emotional and physical connection. Also in recovery and found BDSM to be therapeutic thus appreciate incorporating elements of mental health into our dynamic. Kink wise, I enjoy roleplay, DDlg (without extreme age regression), rule based dynamics, restraints/bondage, CNC, and have experience in all. Vanilla wise, I enjoy history/diversity/culture/travel, writing, gaming, and anything outdoors - I am at the gym daily and a hiking fanatic. Professionally, I have am well educated, self employed, and do meaningful work.

You: My main requirement is serious intent. I don't have strict physical requirements only that you are reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Preference to the self-aware, mental healthy savvy, and those that embrace BDSM as more than a kink. Be prepared to submit to my ground rules of absolute honesty, communication, and mutual respect. I prefer you to be located in the SouthEast US, for the right connection willing to travel, especially to places that interest me.

Short Term: I have a well tested vetting process that will ensure alignment. Within a few days we will know if its a match. It includes swapping SFW pics, some background, and private communication off reddit. If it is we will move into rules, structure, boundaries, and discussing an in person meet.

Medium Term: Logistics are important so be in the US, and preferably close to a location I frequent or travel ready. We will explore some scenes, a dynamic, and ensure there is good chemistry. Be ready for an adventure.

Longer Term: Ethics, spirituality, and values are important to me as they will be to my long term partner. Be emotionally and physically available as not in a committed relationship or poly.

DM your interest in my approach and we will begin.