I thought I might change this up a little bit and make it a Q&A format this time around. What other questions do you have for me?

Who are you?

• A strict dominant and a sadist who has been practicing BDSM for 25 years. The vast majority has been in-person with only a small amounts online
• Experienced with long-term live in D/s relationships that lasted 10 years and included collaring (and all the complexities that are involved)
• A volunteer in the local kink community giving back in various roles from cleaning to teaching an occasional class
• Life long learner who attends kink education events and conventions to learn everything from play skills to social skills to improving safety
• Financially secure with a solid career, owner of a kink friendly house and not really wanting for anything that money can buy
• Lots of hobbies and interests outside of kink (details below)

Why are you looking online?

• I adore my local kink community, but there is a limited dating pool. Expanding my options to meeting people across the country increases my chance of meeting someone who is a good fit
• I am not looking for something that stays online forever. I like making the connection, establishing trust and compatibility/connection online. Then when we agree it's a good fit, planning out a way to meet.

What all are you into?

A lot. More than I can conveniently list here - if you don't see your kink here, just ask, I'm probably into it.

• BSDM (Lifestyle): High protocol, honorifics, obedience training, behavioral modification, eye contact restrictions, free use, appearance control, rituals, orgasm control/denial, domestic service, everyday bondage, strict schedules, requiring permission for most things
• BDSM (Play): bondage, rope, impact (whips, case, floggers, paddles, etc.), CNC, anal play, objectification, breath play/asphyxiaphilipa play, knives, humiliation/degradation, mummification/encasement, watersports, electrical play (violet wands, shock collars, etc.), wax, sensory deprivation, fear play
• Vanilla: cooking, leather working, hiking, board games, roller coasters, wood working, reading, video games, travel, nerdy/geeky conventions

Note that I'm willing to get as deep into kinks, fetishes and edge play as you are willing to go. Some of the things I do aren't for the faint of heart. So, if this doesn't seem dark or extreme enough for you - ask. You'll probably find we are closer matched than you realize.

What is this ethically non-monogamous/poly thing?

• It means I am looking for two long-term, live in and committed relationships - not just one.
• It also means I am willing to top people at play parties or my local dungeon, as long as it doesn't pose any risks to me. These are mostly focused on bondage and sadism, not sexual acts.
• I am extremely conservative on sexual risks which involves regular testing and avoiding all risky sexual acts. I am not interested in any form of sharing or swinging as part of my lifestyle.

Would I be required to go to the dungeon or play parties too?

• In short, yes. I'm very active at the local dungeon and would expect any partner to participate with me there. Many of my friends are also part of that community and it is one of my favorite socialization spots.
• What you do in a public kink friendly setting is open to negotiation though, so a reluctance to play in public or similar things may not be showstoppers.

What does daily life look like?

• A mixture of regular everyday life and kink. Doing dishes every day - but maybe doing it naked in heels, cuffs, chains and a ball gag.
• There are a lot of regular life things that need to get done. Cleaning, making meals, taking care of pets, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, work - BDSM doesn't suddenly make all of those things disappear
• Kink is intertwined through all of the regular things. A grope while you are chained and doing dishes. A fuck on lunch break. Dragged up to the home playspace after dinner for a thorough impact scene. Or locked in the cage at the foot of the bed for the night.
• The authority exchange is in effect all the time. So even when we are out looking like a nice vanilla couple - a command should make you hop and protocol/rituals should be upheld.
• The balance between work and domestic service is negotiable. I'm open to an s-type who works full time, or an s-type who wants to be fully domestic service. However, each scenario has pros and cons, so it requires a discussion to get into the nuances.

What are you looking for in a partner/s-type?

• Do this all sound like the life you want to live?
• Do you share some overlap in kinky and vanilla interests?
• Is this something you actually want to act on, given the opportunity? Not just a fantasy you want to sext about?

If the answers are yes, then you are probably the type of person I'm looking for and you should send me a chat or a message - I would love to hear from you. And if not, then I wish you the best of luck in finding what you are looking for.

Damon