37 [F4M] Birmingham, UK

The first line can sometimes be the most difficult to write. But this is somewhat of a long post, so to give you an idea of what this post is about, it’s about a single woman trying to find a man who is searching for a long-term relationship leading to marriage based on dom/sub dynamic. In a nutshell, we would shape the relationship based on mutual respect and open communication. I am sincerely looking for a irl relationship. Please type Toyota in your message so I know you’ve read my post.

Who am I?

Conscientious, sarcastic, easy-going and perceptive woman. I enjoy the quiet moments in life, but I have atrocious time management skills – although this usually happens to my personal tasks. I can be a contradiction as I enjoy late nights and early mornings. I love going to the cinema, long walks, good music and reading. My values are communication, trust, manners, and respect. I do not have any children now, but this could change in the future.

My ideal person

Yep, I typed ideal, as it is impossible to find someone that matches my list of attributes. You’re aged between 37-45, taller than 5ft 10, single, articulate, child and pet free. You’re naturally a soft dominant with a calm and assertive personality. You know how to navigate people who like to push boundaries, but ultimately, you like your partner to please you. The dynamic I like is based on physical and psychological, as sometimes a look can speak a thousand words. You have a strong urge to protect as well as discipline, which can range from creating a stable routine and structures to the tactile language of hand-holding and cuddles. Sometimes, a cuddle or a simple touch on the arm or back is all that is required to maintain warmth and security in a relationship. I like a man who wears suits/business casual and knows how to have a conversation. I’m a sapiosexual, so I’ll hopefully find a man with a sexy brain. Looks do play a certain part. However, I do gravitate towards a person who can create and maintain a connection through conversation. So it’s 80% brain and 20% physical. I need to find you attractive, NOT the whole world. Maybe you’ve been through a breakup/divorce, and as a self-assured man, you know what you’re looking for in a relationship and are willing to devote time to get to know each other.

Non-negotiables

First of all, a disclaimer: we all have preferences that we’re entitled to, so please remember that. Please be child-free, as any new relationship is hard but can be made difficult when children are involved. For clarity, I love children, and I have plenty of nieces and nephews. I had a bad experience with a dog, so I’d prefer it if you were pet-free. Please live and work in or around Birmingham. I have explored long distance before and its never worked out for me. I am DDF-free and happy to provide proof, and I expect the same from you. I’m not into extreme BDSM, incest, strangulation, latex, anal, any kind of bodily fluids or anything illegal. I love to please with a bratty, playful streak, so hopefully, you can handle both sides.

Things to consider:

My sexual experience is limited, and I am happy to discuss this when things are progressing to THAT stage. Ideally, you are happy to take charge and teach me. And, ahem, practice with me until things improve. I am BBW, so this is something that attracts you, and it’s cool if it doesn’t. If you reply to my post, then I will assume you like BBW. Having said that, I am trying to lose weight, so I would appreciate encouragement and support in this.

I am deliberately leaving things like interests and hobbies vague, but I do have a kitten/princess and bratty side. For the ones in the know, you know what that means.

So, I have taken an idea from another post. I asked at the start of my message to type Toyota in your message, but that was a lie. Please type Disney in your message if you have sincerely read and understood my post. Also, include some information about yourself in your message such as your name, age, location (rough idea) and what you are looking for. You can add anything else you like.

I cannot stress this enough but only reply to my post if you are genuinely and seriously looking. I am looking for an actual relationship, and that only works if two people put the same amount of effort in, along with some compromises. For this reason, I will prioritise a person if they live/work in the West Midlands.