I know having a good deal of experience in a dynamic in real life as well as online has made me a better dom. I understand what works for me and what I can do to help my submissive feel content (toe curling content haha) too. This needs to be a two way street for us both to enjoy it. I know that is lost on some people, but it is high on my list for this to be successful.
I have a pretty demanding professional career. Being able to express my dominant side with someone definitely keeps me even mentally. I am sure you likely feel better overall when you are with the person you know will be there for you too.
I have been a dominant since my college days, so that means I have enough experience in the dynamic to be confident, but also know that every interaction is different with me being able and open to learning from you. I also know that this dynamic is based on trust and respect. We need to build that before we can truly open ourselves up. Once we get there things can grow, and lead to something bigger than either of us.
In my experience I have found I connect well with a certain type of submissive. First off, it is someone that does not come across as submissive. You are assertive in your day to day life. You know what you want and you do not apologize for it. At the same time you find it somewhat exhausting to be in control day in and day out. You want to continue to be driven to achieve your personal goals in life, but you also need to let go with someone you trust, that understands your needs are not just sexual, and can take care of you in multiple ways.
I do like being in control as that is one of my major dominant drivers. I am not looking for someone that wants me to make every decision for them. I am happy to help guide you, but if I am running your life and mine it becomes exhausting. I believe that this aspect, like many things in a healthy dynamic, are about balance. I do have a very strict side that comes from my love of control. That builds over time. You have to show me that you are deserving of that side of me.
I like women that are smart, funny, and able to be open with who they are as a person not just as a submissive. Being able to just shoot the shit with someone is great. We can talk about what we are dealing with at work, great food and wine we enjoyed, or whatever else we enjoy talking about.
I am mainly looking for something online (with the possibility to potentially meet if we get to that point). I have a decent amount of flexibility in my schedule to talk throughout the day and at night. You will not be a part time aspect of my life, but I will incorporate what we build into my life. I would expect the same from you.
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