You know, Ive been looking for a dynamic on here off and on for damn near 10 years I would say. And while I have found some amazing matches over the years, some that lasted for literal years. Every time it has come to an end, and I think that is ultimately because of me. I wasnt honest with my partners, and I wasnt honest with myself and what I can accomplish and do.

So I want to start this off by being honest. and straight forward with who I am. I was diagnosed with aspd close to 11 years ago, and while I would say it doesnt affect me as much as it used to, I still do have symptoms and shit that just makes me different. Pretending that it doesnt doesnt help me and it doesnt help my next partner so I want to shoot straight instead of ignoring that I have it and keeping it from my partner.

But the benefits of that is I am very flexible when it comes to kink, Ive been everything from a heavy sadist, to more taboo kinks (cnc ageplay shit like that) to just a pure daddy dom with nothing but praise. I love kink, and I love helping my partner have the best experience when it comes to kink. I personally lean towards the darker things, (cnc impact play, breathplay tpe) but those arent deal breakers not to have.

the main thing I would say I would love to have is someone that I can play games with on pc, preferably fps games. and someone I can watch shows with outside of kink. I want to enjoy being around you and I want to look forward to talking to you. I want to be excited when your name pops up.

One of the downsides of me is I can be cold sometimes or nontalkative but I have gotten better on recognizing those moments and understanding when thats happening so I can do a better job of communicating that. You will not be left in the dark and you wont be ignored, I will just sometimes come across more dry than I intend to, but I wont ignore you and I will communicate my thoughts effectively.

actually admitting all this is tough but in order to have an effective relationship I think it is important for me to admit.

I have been told countless times I am an amazing dom. and if youre down I would love to show you how amazing I can be, and be your last dom/relationship you will ever want or need.

I also take kink slowly, I believe that a successful dynamic requires trust, and in order to have trust you have to know a person. you have to like a person. I cant see myself having a dynamic with someone I wouldnt want a relationship with because those are synonymous to me.

and to finish it off, I work in video production for a living, and I fucking love to cook. I obviously play video games too (but I am a male on reddit so that basically seems like a given lol) I am also from the east coast.

I lean more towards people who also are neurodivergent since I am also neurodivergent. I just feel like there is a base level of understanding with one another when that is the case.

looking for someone from 21-35, but if youre outside of that range thats not a dealbreaker. I would rather find someone who I can take off the mask with and understands me more than someone who falls into that range.