Before you dive into the nitty gritty of what I'm looking for, a bit about me:

I'm mid-30s, white, ginger, average height, average weight, above average length. I've been told I'm cute often enough and definitely not conventionally attractive. I'm in the time zone of CST/CDT/GMT -6 and am usually available during the typical work day, some late nights, and here and there during the weekends.

I am in a relationship and am not getting what I need in it with regards to a Dom/sub dynamic. She has no real interest in it and will not be involved in, or aware of, our dynamic. If this bothers you, then I wish you luck in your continued search. If you are OK with this, then please read on.

Outside of Kink: I'm a nerd that loves to laugh and try to inject humor into most any situation from quips, to puns, to play-on-words, to good-natured teasing. I spend most of my free time not tending to my responsibilities with playing games or watching shows. I enjoy being outdoors, specifically in the woods or in a boat on a lake.

I’m neurodivergant (AuDHD) and only got my diagnosis as an adult. It can make for times of lots of contact and others of withdrawal, depending on how life is fairing or my fixation status. Perversion is a regular and huge fixation of mine.

The Kinky Me: I consider myself to be somewhat of a Daddy or soft Dom. Or even a "bratty Dom" in the sense that I like to tease and joke while in control. I can switch from playful to stern and back quickly. I definitely get arousal from being in control, and will want to include regular sexual activities as part of my control. And a submissive eager to obey please makes them all the more arousing.

I love the juxtaposition of pleasure and discomfort, or even pain. I have a sadistic side that tends to be mild to moderate with a focus more on pinching/clamps, impact play, and breath play, but can get harder with the right partner or if the mood strikes (Pun intended). I love orgasm control, whether edging or multiple, and especially when coupled with something rough as well. I have a fascination with sexual messes on my submissive in the form of her own juices or spit/saliva/drool.

I enjoy the idea of public naughtiness. Whether that's just outside of your bedroom in the rest of your home, out in nature, or hidden in a public place. I do not like the idea of getting my submissive in trouble and am cautious with such activities.

I enjoy having controls that are not sexual in nature, too. Especially if it's a control in dedication to the dynamic or to help my submissive improve herself in some way or reach a goal.

I understand aftercare is difficult in an online relationship. It will mostly consist of communicating afterwards, making sure you drink water, perhaps have a special snack, and praise for your obedience. It can be tweaked to fit what you need or our dynamic allows.

My non-negotiables are:

• My submissive should be honest with me at all times, regardless of it she thinks she’ll get in trouble or not.
• My submissive must be willing to share pictures of herself with me to please me, arouse me, prove completion of task, etc. I also like to share and expect the same treatment in respect. I treat pictures like treasures and you can read more about it in the post on my profile.
• My submissive must be into mild S&M play, and open to exploring moderate play if not already interested in it.
• My submissive must be into free use play as it can be hard, but not impossible, to dedicate specific/scheduled time to some scenes.
• My submissive can be into some more extreme kinks, but as long as those extreme kinks aren’t non-negotiable for her, she should expect I may not engage in them. These extremes are pretty much covered by my limits, but some others may exist.

Beyond that, kinks, controls, and such can be negotiated for me.

My major limits are:

• Harm (Causing injury that requires medical attention beyond immediate first aid and aftercare)
• Filth (Scat play, toilet play, soiling, wetting, vomiting, purposeful blood, etc)
• Legal trouble (Getting in trouble where the law becomes involved)

What About You? You should want to submit, please your Dom, and be happy to do so. While I do not like the brat attitude of "Make me", I enjoy some bratty behavior from my submissive in the sense of her own teasing and jokes, but she should understand when it's time to submit. General subs, service subs, pets, littles, and Mommy subs are particular favorites, but most all are welcome. Some level of masochistic desires are required.

Your attitude towards submission will matter more to me than your physical appearance; an eagerness and willingness to please means a lot. Age, race/ethnicity, relationship status, and such things will not matter much. Physical limitations can be worked with and around as needed.

I want you to feel free to express yourself openly with me in all things. Especially in regards to our dynamic, but in anything you feel comfortable sharing as well. I welcome an inquisitive submissive that wants to ask questions and learn about things and discuss the "why" and the "how" as well as the "what".

You should be available enough to receive tasks and provide appropriate updates on them, and/or engage in free use play. It can be difficult to get two lives to match up perfectly in time, so you should have an understanding that I may not always be available but will try to be as often as I can. I will extend you the same grace. It does not matter what timezone or country you're in if how we communicate works.

What About Us? Our dynamic will be my primary focus, but that does not mean I won't welcome a friendship. I want this dynamic to last as long as possible; as long as our respective life situations allow it to.

Our dynamic can be as casual or involved as we can agree and handle. As much as I'd love to engage in TPE, I cannot 100% get into one, but can get close for the right partner. Our dynamic can include things like:

• Free use play/irregular play times
• Tasking play
• Structure added to your private time at home with rules to follow
• Control within aspects of your life outside of private time, kink, and play time, that will not disrupt your life in an undesired way
• Aid in reaching personal goals or growth through rules and tasks

How Will We Communicate? We will have a getting to know each other period until we are both comfortable with continuing a relationship. I am eager to get started, but I do not want to rush things into something neither of us are happy with. During that time we will discuss our expectations for the dynamic, particular desires, potential outcomes, and limits.

You will need to be able to communicate clearly and effectively through texted/typed means. Providing updates to the plays/tasks we engage in will help me better understand the situation on your side of the screen, as well as help me better plan and control you. Because text can be a flat medium, I welcome emoting in chat through creative punctuation use, emojis/emoticons, and asterisk emotes.

If you're interested, send a chat message with what you're looking for in an online dynamic and what may have caught your attention to message me.

Thank you for reading, and I look forward to your message!