Confession #1: After becoming single awhile back, I've exercised very little self-control when it comes to indulging in self-pleasure. The idea of reigning it in isn't all that exciting, but the idea of relinquishing control over to somebody else is very appealing. I know this probably sounds like basically every other ad on here, but I have some idea's for making it a little more interesting than that, which brings me to...

Confession #2: As the frequency of my masturbating has gone up, there's been a noticeable decrease in the size of my loads. I'm a scientist at heart, so I was thinking that rather than just suggesting a run-of-the-mill orgasm control/denial dynamic, we make more of a game/experiment out of it. I think it would be fun if your goal in controlling my orgasms was not just to enjoy watching me squirm, but also to experiment with what makes me perform best for you. That could mean making me try different things (how long I go between orgasms, edging regimen, water intake, etc) and seeing how that affects my cumshots, whether we measure that by the volume of cum, distance, or anything else you would like. You know, for science.

I think I'm out of confessions, but I'll still ramble a bit more.

I know this would probably take more thought than a typically BDSM dynamic, but to the extent that you want I'm happy to help with the brainstorming while being the test subject, and of course I'll always defer to you for the final say (I'm sure there will be times when I get desperate and ask for permission to cum when it's not part of the "plan"). And although I would be the submissive for this and I'm happy to stay in just that role, I do have switchy tendencies so I would be perfectly willing to reciprocate in some way for you if there's any sort of control/structure that appeals to you.

I envision this starting as a fun/casual/fwb type arrangement, though I'm open to more if that's the direction things go. We can keep it simple or build more kinks on top of it, I'm pretty open to the details and how it unfolds. For instance there could be rewards/punishments depending on my performance, we could incorporate other kinks (some others I enjoy dabbling in are power exchange, desperation/begging, humiliation, light pain, service), strict or gentler. And realistically, I recognize that this idea alone might not be enough to sustain a long-term dynamic, but hopefully it could be a fun/kinky/weird jumping off point.

About me: I'm 38m, US Eastern Time, decent shape (5'9 160lbs), brown hair, brown eyes, tan complexion, stable with a good career. More of an outdoorsy type than a gamer type, but pretty well rounded. It'd be great to talk about interests beyond just kink.

About you: You don't necessarily have to be nerdy, but I think you probably see where I was coming from now in the title. I'm looking for a cis-female, probably in the range of 25-40 (but flexible), and I don't care too much where you're from (of course closer would be logistically easier for daily schedules and any potential longterm connection if we get there). I'm hoping for a mental connection above all else, and if this idea interests you, I feel like there's a good chance we'd have some things in common.

If this appeals to you or even just intrigues you, say hi and tell me a little bit about yourself, and we'll take it from there. Don't be shy (actually, I find shy girls cute so you can be shy as long as you still say hi)!