Hi there! I'm Fen, a pleasure/Daddy type Dom looking for a long term submissive partner to love and protect, mutually grow with, tease relentlessly, and indulge in our depraved fantasies with. An online connection is fine at first for me but I couldn't do it forever -- I'm currently living in Denver but not tied down here & open to relocate.

Who I am: Heteroflexible/queer cis white male, 29, 5'9", dad bod, tattoos, pierced ears, short beard, nice hands, a loud laugh and two cute gremlin cats.

I'm a nerd at heart and love tabletop, video and board games. Some other passions: cooking and baking (anything having to do with food, really), history, nonfiction, tea, supporting small & local businesses, etc. I also like design and fashion -- my aesthetic is antique-y alt grandpa who was definitely in a cult (but like, a fun one 🧙🏻‍♂️).

I'm in my self actualization arc: Lifting, therapy, career advancement, working on my hobbies, etc. Fitness and lifting has become a huge part of my life this year and I'm looking for someone who I can maintain that lifestyle with.

(...Also I'm way more of an absurd goof than this post makes me seem! Laughter and silliness is really important to me 😄)

What I'm looking for: A sweet, dark and depraved connection with a sub where service and worship are met and rewarded with fantasy fulfillment and intense pleasure.

I'm truly a man of Acts of Service -- Both inside and out the bedroom, a thoughtful gesture or going out of your way to do something someone enjoys is extremely meaningful to me. In a dynamic this means I love receiving service, worship, and devotion, and show my appreciation through liberal amounts of praise, reward and reciprocation. Through the dynamic we should both feel appreciated and the energy we devote to one another honored.

I'm definitely also a sex nerd -- I love learning about different types of play, sex, relationship styles, etc. I'm experienced in kink and going about it in a physically and mentally safe way is very important to me.

My idea of a fun scene is dressing my partner up, strapping them down in restraints or a close embrace and subjecting them to overwhelming pleasure, sensation and dirty talk. Teasing relentlessly between play, because I love knowing how twisted around my finger I can get someone's mind. Over the knee spankings with lots of kissing and orgasms. Making their fantasies a reality and turning them into a puddle of pure bliss... Etc :)

Mental closeness and submission is just as important to me as physical. My flavor is sweet and condescending -- my partner is a poor sweet mess and I'm just doing things for their own good, you see?

Non exhaustive kink list: *Giving praise *Service submission *Receiving worship *Protocol & training *Medium to heavy bondage *Pleasure control (edging, denial, chastity, forced, overstimulation) *Teasing, humiliation & embarrassment, mostly centered on sexual desperation and frustration *Endurance (light to medium pain, overstimulation, tickling, etc) *Latex *Appearance & clothing control / dollification *Sharing / swinging *Body writing & discreet signs of ownership *Cock worship *Domestic service *Some others: ddlg/middles, petplay, predicaments, oral fixation, breeding (fantasy only), toys, light electricity, anal, roleplay, cuckquean, exhibitionism, CNC *Not a fan of toilet play, blood, intense pain, hurtful degradation, abdl, involving the unconsenting public.

Who I'm attracted to: I gravitate toward those who are creative, enthusiastic and enjoy learning, who challenge me and make me want to improve myself. Those who share a need for mental connection -- laughter, banter and absurdity, funny observations, goofy/stupid references, affection, closeness, good communication, emotional openness and vulnerability. Those who are anti toxic masculinity, in touch with themselves, and have an awareness of & respect for the people and world around them. Those who include their fav book in their message so I know they actually read this. Passion and drive are infinitely attractive; I love to help people pursue their goals!

Physically, my type is shorter / smoler folks who are somewhat to very physically active and present feminine to androgynous (regardless of gender identity), with a massive soft spot for alt, artsy or bookish vibes.

Absolutely NOT interested in anyone with right wing ideologies.

If you find any of this enticing, feel free to send me a message! Effort means a lot to me so please say more than hi -- maybe some info about you, your hobbies, what you're looking for in a dynamic etc, and be willing to (eventually) verify with a SFW pic. Hope to hear from you :)