Before I start, you should be single and have your own place. I also prefer white doms, sorry.

Tl;dr I’m looking for someone charismatic who charms and negs his way into my life and quickly reveals his true nature - physically, mentally, emotionally and financially abusive towards me with no concern for my wellbeing or happiness.

Longer version:

Take me on a date but be old school about it - ordering my food, get me drunk, being sweet. Then just a little comment about how I’m pretty but I’d be stunning if I lost weight, and you think I’ve eaten enough and should stick to drinks. Then when I’m drunk, take me back to yours and have me strip so you can inspect me and tell me how lucky I am you’re paying me attention, use that as justification for having your way with me the way you want. Maybe I mention I like being submissive and you use that as an excuse to get rougher.

As the dates progress, you get more demanding and emotionally manipulative. Pushing boundaries, getting kinkier, expecting more pain and subservience to please you. Things like “If you really cared about me, you’d starve yourself to be sexy for me”. “If you really cared about me you would keep my place spotless without me having to ask”. “Good girlfriends always have all their holes ready for me”. “You should thank me for punishing you to make you a better girlfriend”. “If you cared about me, you would make sure I always have groceries and cook all my meals for me”. Etc, and humiliating and punishing me when I don’t live up to these things.

As time goes on, I get addicted to trying to please. Sexually ready (and willing) to do whatever it takes to keep you entertained and satisfied. Taking full accountability for keeping your place spotless, even though I don’t live there. Making sure I cook your favourite meals for you and you’ve got a fridge full of your favourite food and drinks while I’m starving myself and pushing myself at the gym to have a tight body for you.

I want to be constantly on the hamster wheel trying to please for scraps of affection, while the outside world is telling me how lucky I am to have such a great guy, and only we know how truly fucked up it really is.