I'm a mid 40s dom. I've been doing this for awhile which is good and bad. Good in that I know what I am looking for! So here we go....what am I looking for? You: The quintessential good girl. No one would suspect you have this submissive streak, and that's ok! You thrive on being given tasks and rules and just generally not having to make decisions. You want someone to tell you what to wear, when and how you touch yourself and if you're allowed to orgasm. You have some goals to start both in and out of the bedroom.I have some ...shall we call them stretch goals? We will build a plan together for helping you achieve those while finding the best places for us both to flow into each others lives. I will be training you, I will be molding you into the best submissive you can be, tailored specifically for me. Us: Sounds great right? Of course it does, I need the ability to have non kinky conversations with you as well, and with me placing communication as a cornerstone of our dynamic, it's a deal breaker. Before you run away thinking I need 24/7 contact, I do not. I have a partner and that means I have constraints on my time as well, we both need to know each others availability for play and for just regular chit chat. That's how we show up for each other. Things you should know: I'm into a lot. Let's start with Outfit control, orgasm control, orgasm denial, exercise control, degradation, humiliation, I'm a bit sadistic, so bring your masochist and lets introduce the two sides and see what happens. Ultimately, I am looking for control, and will happily take anything with very few exceptions. My limtis are ageplay, blood, permanent marks/damage, anything involving others without their consent, bathroom fluids, stink kinks. I am in PST, and would prefer you to be close to that but if you aren't reach out anyway and lets see if we can work something out!. That said - if you are expecting a dynamic in the next few days out of this, I am likely not the right Dom for you. Try sending me a DM. I use old reddit exclusively and chat was never good, but it's super not good when using the old front end. If you send a chat, I will try to keep it open so I can see and respond.