It's been 8 years since I've looked for a partner. I'm wiser, older, with a few more experiences, cautionary tales, and more insight to include with my ad. I actually posted my very first ad on a site called "CollarMe" nineteen years ago, with the same intention of starting a lifelong lifestyle relationship with a deserving good girl. Hopefully the last 8 years is payment enough for some good juju. Thanks for coming everyone; hopefully 2024 will be a year of more kink and less vanilla, amirite? Let’s get into it!

What I’m Looking For: A male-led, taken in hand lifestyle relationship. Not just a side thing, not just something done in the dark to get my rocks off, not something that stays online because it’s just a fantasy and you can’t fathom fantasies being in a real, but an ACTUAL relationship. Wild, I know. This means something that has kink structure, but also has vanilla crossover. I like to wake up to being served by a dedicated good girl. One who enjoys taking orders and instructions, being micromanaged and examined, slapped and spit on, but who also wants to go on nice trips with her Owner, meet his friends and family, and snuggle while we watch old movies and TV shows (I’m even going to ask what you like because I care). Think a 1950’s lifestyle but more modern, ideally with heavy TPE overtones, as that tends to leave me the most fulfilled.

What I’m NOT Looking for: I’m not interested in anything short-term related, being a full-time friend with benefits, bottoming or being your sub/slave, roleplaying a specific fantasy, being a cuckold, being molded into a copy of your ex/father (or anyone else, I’m my own person), or anything where I’m treated like an object or property (though I should essentially be your most prized obsession).

About Me: In purely ‘talking shop’ terminology, I tend to describe myself as a fatherly sort of Dominant-type. I’d say I’m mostly happy-go-lucky, traditional, masculine man with a bit of an edge. I’m a quick study with a slick mouth, and can occasionally be a bit of an asshole (but only to random disrespectful people). Hopefully, you’re ready for a fun game of cuddles and kisses where you're horny all the time without getting frustrated. Some things I enjoy are cooking, baking, interesting history, natural medicine, walking outside in the cool air, long drives to nowhere and everywhere, card games (mostly poker), giving random dogs love and affection, the feeling of a soft hoodie, footrubs, being caressed, apple cider, and watching the same classic movies and shows on repeat (Twilight Zone and Addams Family anyone?). I could waste time with a physical description, but women are visual creatures, so I’ll just include some recent pictures. And some big picture bulletpoints: I’m single, monogamous, never married, one child who visits a few times a month, lives alone, has a job, no pets but loves dogs, has a drivers license and a car, doesn’t have any Covid vaccines, doesn’t have STDs/STIs.

About You: We all have needs, wants, and preferences, and the list version of some of my big ones are below. These are just some general guidelines, so if you don’t check every single box exactly but still feel we’d be an amazing fit, message me anyway and show me.

• Single
• Monogamous
• Childless (and will be happy if we don't have kids in the future)
• Under 300 lbs
• Age 18-60
• Submissive (preferably with slave tendencies)
• Have an income (and not looking for a sugar daddy)
• No serious mental health issues
• Knows that submitting to one man makes them happiest (not looking for a practice dummy, or just to play around with kinky sex)
• Looking for something IRL and longterm
• Sends pictures in their opening message, which will be a private message and not a chat
• Doesn’t use submission as an excuse to abuse, traumatize, or manipulate
• Doesn’t raise their voice or cry to get their way
• Doesn’t try to turn this into some cringe-worthy roleplay as an escapist exercise
• Doesn't have any covid vaccines

Also, please understand that I am a whole person, and while being Dominant is a core part of who I am, it isn’t the only thing that I am. I won’t be your abuser or your kink-dispenser: if you treat me badly or act outside of the way we have agreed upon in our dynamic, I won’t tolerate it (and that’s a money back guarantee). I’m also a human and a reciprocal partner, and if I see things slipping or feel like you’re not okay, then I will question you and break that fourth wall when needed; it’s not a disrespect thing, it’s a good person thing. I’m not just looking to provide someone the framework and discipline to thrive under without also offering them the love, attention and support that's necessary for an actual relationship. I’m not a desperate incel, I'm a man who's walked through hell and made it out alive, only to realize that the fairytale lifestyle in TV and movies are a fantasy, and that real people respect each other, even when one of them is serving on their knees.

The Fun Stuff: You’ve made it this far, so let’s talk brass tacks. My broad kinks include:

• 24/7 TPE
• Free use
• Wardrobe control (in private you'll mostly be nude)
• Bathroom control
• Meal/Exercise control
• Masturbation control
• Orgasm control/denial
• Breast/Nipple play
• Forced orgasms
• Hairpulling
• Spitting
• Choking
• Watersports
• DDLG
• Ropes/Restraints
• Exhibition
• Praise (you'll hear the word "good girl" a lot)
• Light Humiliation/Degradation
• Anal/Anal training
• Cum swallowing (when I bust inside you, sometimes I'll feed it to you)
• Displays of ownership like cuffs, collar, VCH

Some things I have no interest in/are my limits: MMF group sex, blood/gore/vomit, rimming, pegging, extreme sadism, animals/furries/illegal.

I know I write long, so thanks for sticking with me and powering through. Also, please note I work non-traditional hours and am about to go to work, so if I don’t respond right away don’t think it’s because I’m not going to, it’s because I’ll do it once I have some down time. When I post, I tend to zero in on one or two people, because finding a good partner can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack, and I’m not giving up just yet. Maybe with this long post, the right person will find me. Good luck in your search and may the odds be ever in your favor.