Extreme is subjective so bear with me. I’m interested in exploring dynamics that take commitment, experience, and patience. So for that reason I’m not interested in someone new to BDSM at this point. I’m also not interested in pursuing this dynamic online only. We don’t need to live together full time, but I will need yo to be in my presence a good percentage of the time.

I am interested in a dynamic that we will build organically based on mutual interests. I have several options that I have experience with and am excited by, but I am open to others as well. Physical, mental, and emotional health are extremely valuable to me so if you’re looking for an unreasonable fantasy dynamic (such as 24/7 severe isolation) I am unlikely to be interested. However, I’m often able to convert such fantasies into healthier alternatives. So by all means get in touch.

Before I get into specifics I’d like to clarify that I believe I’m balanced extremes. If there’s extreme control there’s also extreme support. If there’s extreme pain there’s extreme pleasure. I’m interested in long term experiences and dynamics so I am only interested in sustainable practices. For that reason I am extremely communicative and expect my partners to be as well. I use safewords and I respect limits. Extreme doesn’t mean loss of humanity (unless that’s your thing). Balance also means that in addition to the extreme BDSM dynamic I’m interested in creating an extremely close romantic relationship. I want love.

To give anyone still reading an idea of what kinds of extreme dynamics I’m interested in:

A TPE dynamic where all decisions are made for you. We build a set of values and protocols for you to follow 24/7.

Complete dehumanization where your behavior and the way I interact with you is not at all as a human being.

Free Use/Free Touch where I am allowed to use your body in whatever way I want at any time I want 24/7 (not in public).

Financial Play of various sorts.

Orgasm restriction where I choose if, when, and how your orgasm.

CNC where you are brought to a point of begging to stop for real.

Service where you will have responsibilities that you will have to complete.

These can be combined, added to, adjusted, and left out. I’m extremely flexible and eclectic. So I want to hear your interests in extreme dynamics.

Lastly, I need you to approach me as an equal. I want to know that you respect and value yourself. When we do begin to engage in a dynamic I want it to be from a place of mutual respect and awareness. It won’t be immediate. I will take my time to get to know you.