Please realistically be near Raleigh/Fayetteville NC.

I decided to try adult dating apps...but that was terrible. Reddit has been pretty okay previously...maybe this will work!

But, look, let me put the red flags here: No unethicalness. Just leave me alone if you can't unequivocally say you're single. Don't tell me about it for an exception. This is neither horseshoes nor hand grenades. Also, I'm very direct, so please be prepared for that.

I would actually like BDSM to be a secondary connections. Let's talk about values, expectations, what makes us tick...in life. I have nothing but time, and I need a solid foundation to be vulnerable and explore.

I know what I want, but it is much less a list of attributes and things and much more...a life. It's going to four stores to find that disgusting energy drink you LOVE, because it'll make you smile. It's you designing a game for me to struggle against because it's my very favorite thing, even though the last one you designed failed miserably and we still laugh about it. It's sitting on the porch, enjoying the best silence, until you hear some off the wall question come out of my mouth. It's cuddles on the couch because I just can't anymore and I need to feel safe for five minutes.

I'm 5'3'', brunette, white. I'm independent, secure, confident most of the time, intelligent, and ridiculous. I'm curvy, but happy with myself about 78% of the time. I am divorced, single, and looking to find...my match. Not a match, but mine. And if he doesn't show up...his loss.

Attraction is important. So is safety. I should feel safe enough to say, "Hey, this isn't clicking with me." Which, incidentally, could spark a change of heart. Breathe, our struggles are not always our fault, but they are our problem. Personal growth is hard, but necessary to not bleed on those you love.

I like things most people like...but lean more toward silly and fun than serious. I am a teacher (high school math), so I have enough serious in my life. Let's do something fun!

Responding to these can be challenging. I prefer chats to anything else. Ask me a question, tell me an unfun fact, tell me a joke! What's something you want to share with people, but they never seem interested? Tell me who you are in less than 12 words. How would your best friend describe you? Be honest....and breathe.