Hi and welcome,

I have had dom/sub relationships before and I have found that these dynamics offer me something so much more gratifying than the just vanilla relationships I have had bring.

I’ve learned that total power exchange TPE brings me immense pleasure but not just the sexual side of it- I want all of it.

Ideally, I’d like to take control of as many aspects of someones life as I can.

Dictating what someone wears, when they’ll wake up or sleep, what they’ll do throughout the day (aside from usual responsibilities and commitments), what they eat, when they eat, what to say in certain circumstances… all of it. I want to be the ruler of someone’s life and having someone willingly and excitedly give up control to me is the frosting on my cake.

In order to keep someone in line I like to handle someone’s punishments and rewards to match their obedience but also sometimes my girl just needs a good punishment to show them their place. Either way, I’ll be responsible for all of it.

Now in order to get there - I need to get to know someone as deeply and as intimately as I can which takes time. There’s no point in dishing out random tasks and schedules with random punishments if none of it feels or is made for the person I’m with. Tasks should be tasks. Rewards should feel rewarding. Punishments should be dreaded. (within reason. I’m not evil. Maybe a bit retaliatory if you push my limits and buttons though)

Things I love learning about are everything from likes, dislikes, hobbies, to what bores someone, excites someone, motivates, what makes someone laugh, cry, think, angry, etc. I want to learn everything about a person to obsession and I want it in return. I’d want someone to obsess over me just as much as I give myself to them.

If I need to work to uncover all of it, so be it. I like a challenge and a little game here and there is always fun but beware, playing too hard to get and I’ll bite back even harder.

I believe in catering to a person completely so that I can cater to my needs. That means aftercare and open mindedness is absolutely necessary. I value the principle of control but also understanding. It’s not just about telling someone what to do so I can be sexually satisfied but to me it’s about building a relationship and growing together while also satisfying a deeply satisfying but hard to uncover aspect of our sexuality.

As far as limits go: anything unsanitary, and gore related are hard limits. Other than that I’m open to talking through and incorporating pretty much anything.

If you want this, please message me so we can talk