About me:

32 years old, cis male, he/him pronouns, EST

What I'm looking for:

I'd like to find a long term partner to explore and have fun with. I enjoy learning about my partner. Their interests, hobbies, life, etc. Texting lots, voice/video calls when it's reasonable for both of us, things like that. I'm looking for this to be mainly online based, but meet ups are a possibility depending on location, feasibility, etc.

I typically have gravitated towards partners who are cis F, but I've had nonbinary, fluid, and FTM partners as well.

My preferred age range is 20-40 years old, but if you fall outside that range and feel we would get along well, don't hesitate to reach out.

What I want in a partner:

1. Communication - Always number 1. Open, honest and easy communication. That comes first, and the fun will follow. I need someone who I can talk to and who I can trust to be honest with me about how they're feeling about a scene, the dynamic, etc.

2. Kinkiness - I think that's not an issue if you're in this subreddit, right? Really though, someone I can explore kinks with, maybe push to try new things, maybe explore things new to me that you're interested in, coming up with fun tasks and such.

3. Visuals - Being able to see my partner is important for me. I understand that this might take time to warm up to and develop trust surrounding, but it's a need for me in a long term relationship/dynamic. Pictures, videos, video calls, etc.

Kinks:

Favorites include orgasm control/denial, humiliation, body writing, watersports, anal, and pain play, but that's definitely a non-comprehensive list. I'm into some less common things as well, though I'd prefer to discuss those more in private. For the most part, if it's not in my limits, I'm at least open to it.

Limits:

Anything illegal, anything that causes permanent harm (of any kind: physical, emotional, social, etc.)

About me as a Dom:

I want to give you rules and tasks, have you serve me, and reward you for being good. I've been told by previous partners that I'm very good at making submissives feel safe and secure while pushing them to experience and explore tasks I give them. I've also been told that at times, I can be so much fun to submit for that it makes it hard for brats to brat, because they just want to be good.

I think my previous partners would rate me as a good Dom overall, and most of my dynamics have ended due to changing circumstances, not because of unhappiness. I'm still friends with many of my former partners.

What sort of dynamic do I want?

I gravitate more towards gentle but strict, and I enjoy a dynamic that can sway and shift from gentle/light/fun to mean/strict depending on our moods. In general, I think I can adapt myself to what a partner wants in a dom pretty well. I generally enjoy giving rules, delayed tasks, and setting aside time for dedicated play sessions.

I also very much enjoy being friends with my submissives as well. Having someone I can talk to about hobbies and other interests outside of kink and D/s play makes those things more fun in my opinion. I'm open to romance as well, though it's not a need of mine. Just not shutting the door to it, you know?

Thoughts on aftercare:

For me, I typically enjoy receiving reassurance that my partners enjoyed themselves. Just talking helps me a lot after an intense session.

For my partners, I'm happy to provide whatever you feel you need. Talking, listening to movies together, playing games together, I'm adaptable.

Other important information:

It's important to mention that I'm married. My wife and I are non-monogamous. I'm happy to share the details, but this post is long enough already.

I'm also happy to exchange selfies.

If this seems to resonate with you, consider my DMs open!