Hello! First and foremost, I appreciate you taking the time to read this ad.

I’m a 30 years old German living in the very east of the country. In fact, I can walk over the Polish border. I moved here just recently and originally come from western Germany, for those who are aware of the cultural differences. I live alone in a flat to large for myself, work in the tech industry (from home) and come in at around 1.74m, or about 5.7ft for those of you used to the imperial system.

To avoid a lengthy description of my looks I’d offer to send a (sfw) picture. This is fairer and also means I can verify myself right away. To be clear: I don’t expect the same in turn.

Basic things aside, who am I looking for and why don’t I start by telling you more about me?

Simply put, because this will tell you a lot about me in the process.

I never want my partner to be dependent on me. Otherwise, submission has a bitter by-taste. It’s hard to say no or set boundaries when your existence is at the whip of another person – and that breaks all the principles of a good relationship.

Therefore, you should have an education, be it a degree or a learned trade. You should very much have your own head, mind, ideas and ambitions. We should agree that BDSM is a dynamic, but also a play. It’s something that can be stopped or paused at any time for any reason.

Still, I enjoy taking the lead, making plans and acting the gentleman from time to time. I just need the right lady at my side. If you will, I’m looking for the Morticia to my Gomez.

It’s important to have someone at my side who is capable and in whom I can put as much trust as she is placing in me during play. And the wider the range of topics we could discuss, the happier I’d be.

I’m looking to eventually have an in-person relationship. Texting isn’t my strong suit. I’m much better in person. But also, because I find it difficult to form meaningful attachments to people you never held or even saw.

To lose a few words about myself, I’m first and foremost a problem solver. Even if that sometimes just means providing a space to vent. I hold a few traditional values quite high, which mostly reflects in me taking care, protecting and providing. I’m a curious person with unhealthy amounts of trivia, have a creative vein expressed in storytelling, am a decent cook and to fit the cliché, enjoy hiking.

Which, finally, brings me to the kink-section.

In many regards I fit the idea of a pleasure dom. This extends to bondage and occasionally predicaments. I also enjoy inflicting light pain, though you’d never see me inflicting actual injuries. A hit with the flogger is about as ‘brutal’ as I get. I’m not a sadist by any means. Still, I also enjoy more classical elements, like giving orders, putting my partner in outfits and mild forms of body writing (as in writing “Squeeze me” on your breast, rather than “Fuck Face” on your forehead).

As you can imagine, anything related to blood, scat, permanent injury or the like is off the table. I also don’t engage in age or race play. For one, I don’t have a kink for it and second, I wouldn’t know what to do with it.

Beyond those aspects I’m an open minded and curious person and would like to try and test new things over time. I’m looking forward to it.